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A big part of being a man used to be about learning how to think like a woman in order to get permission to stick your penis inside her. Not so much anymore. Virtual sex technology has eliminated the need for all of that.
Men used to discover that for the best in sexual experience, they need to learn how to be emotionally open to a partner in expressing one’s innermost thoughts and desires. Being loving and lovable was widely known as going a long way in this regard.
Men found that being a good listener, sharing responsibility for navigating life’s ups and downs and good grooming had their ultimate reward in compassionate sexual experiences. Who has time for that? Modern men have so many more options. Take new and improved synthetic sex dolls for example.
If you are an optimist, you may hope that better sex robots will reduce the use of prostitutes as shortcuts to male sexual gratification. While making love to somebody you love and who loves you back is great, it involves dealing with so many hassles.
Call me a pessimist, but I believe that when it comes it comes to loveless sex, the market for assistive technologies knows no human limits.
I believe that the limiting factor will be divine intervention and soon.
In the meantime, experiencing the sacred love of the divine is a way to rise above all sexual encounter hassles. Such love eliminates neediness for forced sexual connections. Aspiring to be lovable to the Creator develops all of the skills necessary to limit one’s sexual gratification to exclusive empathic loving relationships. Such a relationship can carry a man gloriously until the end of their life, whether it comes before the end of time or not.
I feel rather strange writing the above. I have no claim on being a competent preacher or spiritual advisor to any man. When I was working as a professional social work counselor, I tried to be supportive of men with substance abuse disorders and combine their capacities for compassionate loving with their capacities for sexual gratification. My pitch was looking for love and sex in all the wrong places was a big reason why so many men have trouble with substance abuse and other addictive behaviors.
I believe that any man who has experienced compassionate, loving sex, prefers this over any other form of sexual expression. Most men fall victim to cultures which work very effectively to distance sexual expression from intimate loving. When a man makes sexual expression exclusive to intimate loving relationships, very good things happen.
I hate to be a party pooper, but I see no way back to the flourishing of romantic/sexual loving in the context of holistic loving relationships.
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sacred – not scared… lol