Signs He is Avoiding Commitment

He is not having the future talk with you

This involves both short-term and long-term future talks. When a guy is into you, he looks forward to spending time with you. He would be interested in knowing your weekend plans and would put effort into planning hangouts. If you sense that the other person puts no effort into planning things with you, it is a sign that he might not be serious about you. Because he is scared to commit to one person, he avoids making plans with you so that he knows he has kept his options open.

This also applies to the ‘talk’ of the future. It is understandable if it is the early stages of your relationship and your partner is avoiding the marriage or spending life together talking with you. Still, if the two of you have been together for a considerable time, ideally for more than six months, and the other person still runs away from the conversation, it is a sign that he might be avoiding commitment.

He does not value your input

No man can have a healthy relationship with a woman whose values and opinions he does not respect. If your man does not bother to ask for your opinion and does not care about your input, it is a sign that he is scared to make mistakes and be vulnerable. Such a person would always have trouble with commitment because they idealize perfection, and the truth is that any long-term healthy relationship with one person is anything but perfect.

He tries to change you

When your partner criticizes you for who you are and tries to change you, the underlying truth is that he does not accept and value you for who you are. When he realizes he cannot change you, he will soon lose interest in you and walk away. No matter how deep you think your love is, if your partner does not accept you for who you are, they will not commit to you, and this reality will surface sooner or later.

They do not introduce you to the people in your life

Any person who wants a future with you will make you a part of his social life. He will introduce you to his family and friends and plan a get-together. The simple truth is that if he is not interested in making you a part of his social circle or being a part of your social circle, he is not sure if you guys would be around together for a long time.

An important caveat is that you must not expect your partner to make you a part of his social circle immediately, but if you two have been together for a considerable period of time (say more than 6 months), and he still avoids introducing you to the people in his life, he may be avoiding commitment.

Criticism

When you come closer to making a decision, you become hypervigilant if unsure about it. Similarly, when a man scared of commitment senses his relationship is getting more serious, he becomes over-analytical and finds faults in even the small things. Everything, even trivial matters, suddenly become an issue, and they fight almost over everything.

Distance

When men are scared of commitment and sense that things are getting serious, they will begin to pull back:

they would take longer than usual to reply to you,
the frequency of their calls would lower,
making plans without you,
step away from doing the small things.

Personal space and independence matter in a relationship, but when it comes to long-term relationships, your lives also get blended to a great extent. A person avoiding commitment will always emphasize their autonomy over the relationship.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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