Signs You Should Stop Chasing Someone

I have seen many people get stuck in a situation where anyone else could clearly see the lack of interest from the other side. Chasing someone who does not match your level of investment not only embarrasses you, but you also end up putting your time and energy into something futile.

If you find that you are only being contacted when the other person needs emotional support, it may be a sign that they are not really interested in building a meaningful relationship with you. It’s important to recognize this and not allow yourself to be used as a source of emotional support without receiving any genuine care or attention in return.

To save yourself from this trouble and heartache, here are a few signs that will help you identify if you are in such a situation:

Their actions do not match their words

If someone tells you that they miss you but rarely text or call you, it is a sign that they just want to keep you around because it feels convenient for them but they are not interested in putting the effort that goes behind building any successful relationship.

Be cautious. Question if their actions match with what they say. If they constantly leave your texts unreplied, stop fooling yourself and know that they are not that much into you.

They reach out only when they need emotional support

No matter how hard you try, you only seem to be able to get in touch with them when they are experiencing an emotional upheaval and need someone to be by their side.

They won’t reach out to you for anything other than emotional support: never about asking how you are doing, checking up on you, or remembering dates and events that matter to you.

They come to you if no one else is available

They seem to just want to talk to you when it suits them; when none of their friends are available.

They are bored so they call you,
they feel lonely, so they call you.

The rest of the time, they behave as if you do not exist in this world.

Staying in such a relationship means that you are providing the other person with all that they need without ensuring that you get the same in return. My dear, the reality is that such a relationship will only make you feel like a doormat and lower your self-esteem without ever providing you with the benefits of a healthy relationship.

You have a feeling, deep down, that you deserve better

Sometimes you are in a relationship where you get the feeling that the other person does not care. A part of you knows but you are not sure. Trust me, if a relationship leaves you in doubt, it is not worth it.

someone who makes the effort to reach out to you and check up on you deserves you,
someone who schedules meet-ups with you deserves you,
someone who gets excited to see you or hear from you deserves you,

You must not settle for anything less than that. Even if the person seems valuable to you, realize that they are not sharing their value with you and hence, you must move on.

Be aware of this dynamic and consider whether this kind of one-sided dynamic is something you are comfortable with. It’s okay to offer support to someone, but it’s important to also prioritize your own needs and make sure you are being treated with the respect and consideration you deserve.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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