Gus Worland is on a mission to save Aussie men.
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Gus Worland is on a mission to save Aussie men.
The role of men is changing in the 21st century. Want to keep up? Get the best stories from The Good Men Project delivered straight to your inbox, here.
SYNOPSIS
The stereotypical Aussie man is strong, stoic and tough as nails. He laughs in the face of fear; and if life ever gets him down he drinks a cup of concrete and hardens the fuck up. But with male suicide rates three times that of women, it appears the pressure to harden up may be making some men crack. Enter Gus Worland, co-host of the Sydney Triple M Grill team and unofficial bloke expert. He’s not a shrink, but he talks, and listens, to men everyday for a living; and he genuinely cares about their welfare. A few years back Gus’ was devastated by the loss of a close mate to suicide. Now Gus in on a mission to find out what it really means to be a man today and how the average Aussie bloke is actually faring.
It’s a trap, Gus! Their lying. They’ve been doing that to us for years. Run, man! Run!
DJ Roukan Is It possible tha the word, the concept ” sensitive ” means something else to men than it means to women? To be able to be both stoic and sensitive is possible. In different situations . Somehow Iwonder if men think ” sensitive” mean men that weep and can never regulate their feelings in a healthy way. And men that only show feelings that expresses their weakness . Maybe women just ask for emotionally healthy men that is able to read others ,do not hurt everybody around them with insensitive remarks ( like Trump) And men that can… Read more »
Hi Iben, I think both Gus and you are missing perhaps the most important issue here. Men need to be sensitive, yes. But the question is, Can he be it in his own skin? Can he be sensitive at his own discretion, or is it foremost a definition of what his wife needs, that he has to be stoic when she needs him to step up to be? You ask How many divorces are caused by men not sharing any feelings, and not being able to understand how other people feel? I ask, How many divorces are caused by men… Read more »
I think I understand what you mean. When we have small children, then they need the parents to give them the feeling of security in this world.That often means not showing all your emotions. Adults however have to respect when other adults express feelings. If women expect their man to treat them as small children,then I understand why men say no. But I can not imagine any dailly situation where a man has to bottle up his own feelings to protect me, I am happy as long as he can regulate his feelings,and not be totally out of control. A… Read more »
Hi Iben, It seems to me that you are looking at it the wrong way. In my experience, the phenomenon of men “bottling up” and becoming stoic in day-to-day life isn’t about treating the woman like a child or “protecting” her. It’s more about her willingness, or lack thereof, to listen what he has to say. We, both men and women, are brought up with the notion that “Men can’t talk about feelings. Men can’t talk about relationships. But women can.” Hence, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. And to be honest, the issue about sexual desire wasn’t even on my… Read more »
Flyingkal My experience is that some men do hide their feelings , never talk about them, apart for feelings about their sexualal needs and their work. Others want to talk , and they often need a professional therapist . When the relationship is over ,dead and the woman has initiated the divorce then men want to talk ,and want to anything . It is too late. What happens to others I really don’t know Flyingkal but I have listened to men that wants to talk . But I have never been married to one that showed feelings or expressed love… Read more »
My iPad change what I write.
…expressing themselves in ways the other person can not understand.
I take a break now from GMP and the internet until the election in America is over. I am tired of both Donald and Hillary .
Hi Iben, First I must say I understand your decision to tune out from the current buzz. However, I feel I have to address this: “I can not see how two people can have closeness and emotional intimacy if each of them insist on showing feeling,and expressing themselves in ways the other person can not understand.” I can’t see that either. That’s why I’m saying that BOTH people need to listen to each other, need to listen to their partner without prejudice about who (i.e. what gender) is BETTER at expressing their feelings. When you say that you are “happy… Read more »
Well said Iben.