You can attract women using the world’s dumbest conversation topics.
I know because I’ve done it.
You can also use your smoothest lines and fail. I’ve done that too.
Ultimately, it’s not your words that matter.
The most important thing is your vibe; the energy you put out into the world.
With an infectious vibe, you can attract amazing women without saying anything of value.
This is an important lesson for single men to learn.
It’s All In The Sub-Communications
Scientists suggest that 93% of communication is non-verbal.
Some 55% of what we communicate comes via body language, 38% is through voice tonality and 7% through the words themselves.
That means our vibe is 13 times more important than what we say.
Once you understand this, you’ll realize it’s pointless stressing over the perfect words to win over your crush.
You’re better off walking over and owning whatever words come into your head. That will make a stronger impact. The less time you give yourself to overthink, the less likely that nerves will get the better of you.
When meeting women in a loud nightclub, I usually wave my arms and shout “Hello!” Sometimes, I’ll yell whatever dumb joke pops into my head.
If I’m in a great mood and feeling confident in myself, the majority of women are excited to meet me. If I’m feeling unconfident and need women to be nice, they feel that energy and don’t want to talk.
I could use the same opening line on two different nights and get polar opposite results. That’s because humans are very perceptive to the energy other people put out. We feel drawn to good vibes and repelled by bad. This energy we receive is far more important than what someone has to say.
What Are ‘Good Vibes’ And How Can We Cultivate Them?
Good vibes are positive emotions that we send out into the world. Love, joy, humor, gratitude etc.
When we are filled with these emotions, we feel complete. Our cups runneth over. At this point, it’s so easy to share good vibes with everyone we encounter. Because we don’t need anything from anyone else.
People are drawn to this energy. Everyone feels better around someone sharing good vibes. That’s why meeting women is so much easier in this state of mind.
Needless to say, you’ll feel better too. You’ll rarely be nervous about approaching a woman or worried about running out of things to say. When you’re not weighed down by stress or anxiety, you’ll clear up so much extra brain power to be witty, make jokes and remain present with the women you meet. Almost anything you say will be good enough to keep their attention.
It almost becomes effortless to make a connection in this emotional state. That’s why so many dating coaches focus on helping men develop their ‘inner game’. Here’s a selection of my most powerful articles with ideas to help you do the same.
What Are ‘Bad Vibes’?
When we’re filled with stress, despair or self-hatred, it’s almost impossible to share good vibes with anyone. Our cups runneth empty.
Sometimes, men will still approach women in this emotional state. They think that if a woman is nice to them, it’ll help them feel better.
The problem is: these guys aren’t sharing good energy, they’re trying to steal it from others.
In almost every case, women will feel this neediness and want to get away from it as soon as possible. Even if you try to hide it. Even if you used the hilarious pick-up line you found online. Nothing you say will endear you to them.
That’s why you should learn to love yourself before you try to love someone else.
Shady Dating Coaches Will Focus On ‘The Perfect Pick-Up Line’
It’s not an overnight task to generate this positive energy inside you. It can take a lot of work. That’s intimidating. A lot of people don’t want to put in that effort.
That’s why a lot of crooked dating coaches will advertise a ‘quick fix’ instead.
“Use This Hilarious Tinder Opener To 10x Your Dates.”
“Discover My 3-Step NLP-Based Routine That Mesmerizes The Most Beautiful Women.”
“This Secret Pick-Up Line Will Immediately Hook A Woman’s Interest.”
These were the types of marketing hooks used by old-school pick-up artists. They were targeting desperate men with low self-esteem.
There are some situations where it can be useful to memorise some lines. Online dating is one of them. I’ve written a basic structure for how to approach women in daytime venues too.
However, it’s ultimately your vibe that will determine whether a woman is attracted to you.
Any coach who disagrees is more interested in making money than helping their clients.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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