Take the Risk or Lose It All

Would you take a risk for someone for the sake of love? Would you take your pride down in the name of love?

Curiosity lingered through my mind when someone knocked at the door of my heart. Yes, as cringe as it may sound. You built your walls in your heart and swore into the wind that you wouldn’t trust anyone because it was hard to love and trust someone again. You opened your heart and Love again because you found that love is worth taking risks for.

Love doesn’t come often; it will challenge you once you grab that opportunity to love someone. It would shape you to become a better person.

I used to give my heart away, only to realize I was giving it to the wrong people. I was left out, heartbroken and stuck in a situationship or a romantic or sexual relationship that was not considered formal or established. When you have invested your time and energy with someone and get heartbroken too many times, it’s hard to believe in love again. You freeze your heart, and you wait till someone melts it.

Situationship has become a norm in today’s dating. It seems like nobody is dating anymore, and nobody would take a risk for love. Cheating has been glorified, and nobody wants to fall in love. People often get confused between lust and love.

In a world full of uncertainty, you must trust the world again, even after you have been hurt so many times because someone out there needs your love.

Take another chance to love, risk it all, and do it afraid.

If you don’t take that chance, you’ll never love again, and that seems like an empty life to me. What is life if we don’t love? Love is the most significant thing we can do while on earth.

I reconnected with someone I once had to let go of, and this time I let my guard down for him. We first met in 2017 and were good friends. We bonded at work and laughed together, and I found him cute, but I had to let him go and stay within my limits because we were both in a relationship with someone else. So, dating at that time wasn’t for us.

One Saturday afternoon, we went out after four to five years of not seeing and talking to each other. But I never thought that everything would change when he wanted to hold my hand in the car.

I wasn’t looking for love when he came into my life again. I wasn’t expecting that life could have a lot of surprises. Who would have thought that I would be in a relationship with someone I once had to let go of?

It’s scary to love someone nowadays because there are some “what if?”. What if I get heartbroken again? It’s OK because we all do. Sometimes we have to get our hearts broken to remind us that we are humans and we still care. Heartbreaks won’t stop me from loving someone again. Pain in our lives is not bad at all. It reminds us that we are humans; we have a heart, a life, and a chance to live and experience life. What if you didn’t take the chance and missed the love that is yours? You’ll never know unless you take risks for love right in front of you. Sometimes, we are not afraid to love; we are just scared to get heartbroken and rejected. But don’t be afraid to take the risk.

“If you aren’t going to use your heart, then what’s the difference if it gets broken? When you decided to try it, it won’t be any good. You should take a chance. You got nothing to lose. Your heart might still be broken, but ut isn’t gone. If it was gone, you wouldn’t be this nice.” — Kevin from Home Alone 2 Movie

Take the chance because you’ve got nothing to lose.

You would be wondering what things could be only if you took the risk. You have nothing to lose when you love someone because love can teach you many things, and it will remind you how capable you can love someone. When you love someone, you’re not going to lose anything. You still have a heart. You still have a chance. Love makes us human, and love is the reason to live.

Last year I wrote something about being open to the love yet to come. I had a lot of reasons to close my heart, but I chose not to:

To keep my heart open when the world is giving me reasons to close my heart is to believe that I will meet the one for me when the time is right. Just don’t close my heart. It’s a beautiful thing to have a heart where it breathes life. Closing my heart too soon is like giving up the most beautiful kind on earth. Life is getting more rigid, and we need more open hearts to meet people, love people, and experience with our hearts open.

I’m glad I didn’t close my heart completely. If I didn’t take the chance and risked it all, I only miss what we could have been. You will never know how much you can love someone and experience it unless you take the risk. Life can be an empty, vacuous experience if you don’t love. Take the risk to love, you might get hurt, but that’s how we live. ❤

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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