The #1 Mistake Men Make That Kills Attraction Instantly

You just met a woman, everything seems interesting. And you felt you had met your “special one”.

But suddenly, everything changed! The vibe shifted.

She becomes distant, uninterested, nonchalant and even stops replying to messages or she doesn’t reply on time.

You keep wonder on what has happened.

It’s not because you’re not handsome enough, it’s not because you’re broke or boring.

It’s because you’re making a mistake that’s killing attraction

It is a shame most guys don’t know they are their own antagonists when it comes to relationships.

They feel women are generally unstable, complicated and don’t know what they want. They feel women are evil and deceptive for leading them on or giving them hope initially before abandoning them along the way.

Most think by trying to be romantic, nice and respectful women will look upon them with eyes of mercy and consider them for love.

But it doesn’t always work that way. This mistake is draining and consuming, before you know it, it makes you another forgettable guy.

What’s the mistake? You ask, it’s the mistake of….

Overdoing things…

Being “overly” available and “overly” pursuing

Talking too much, texting too much, showing too much interest, trying too much to prove themselves.

Simple has that sound it is the nemesis of most men and it’s the worst nightmare of the others.

Many marriageable men are out there confused about where to turn because of it. But why is it killing attraction?

Because attraction is built on mystery, uncertainty, intrigue, challenge, unpredictability, high and low flow of emotions,

For women, when you are over doing this, you’re showing all your cards at once.
You’re telling her you don’t have other options.
You’re telling her you are desperate.
You’re telling her you will chase her until any length and breadth.

In reality, overdoing things when it comes to love is a pitfall, because…

The more you show eagerness, the less valuable you’re seen.
The more you chase women, the farther they go from you.
And the more you text or call the more likelihood you will receive ill-treatment.

Women are attracted to men who respect and value themselves. And they chase men that have a sense of independence and confidence.

If you’re always available and testing and calling, women will naturally see you as boring because there’s no mystery, no challenge and everything is predictable.

Instead of over pursuing, you need to balance interest with self respect, for example:

If efforts and energy don’t match, give her space.
Don’t always be predictable or available. I’d she calls or tests, don’t always pick/reply on time.
You has to invest too, always make sure she’s making efforts as well.
Set personal goals and objectives. Work on your life and be busy with your life.

Final Thoughts

Attraction is about pulling a woman into your world, and it starts with little things most guys are not paying attention to.

It’s important not to make a woman feel like she has all of you in her pocket already. Show her you have other options, let her know other women are after you too.

Women want men other women want. If a man is valuable, other women would want him too. Women want the challenge of slogging you with other women.

It creates a sense of mystery, challenge and emotional pull. Being the mystery man instead of the plain and predictable one puts you at advantage: it makes women chase you instead of being the chaser.

That’s what sustains attraction.

Thanks for reading…

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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