The Anger That Never Goes Away

It’s not easy to make me angry . Not that things don’t bother me ,but getting mad does not happen to me that often. I’ve compromised all my life and in most of my relationships. It was not about being wise or being the better person ! It was just easier to avoid tension .

As someone who doesn’t get angry easily , and is careful about what to say and what not to say. , I have a big problem :

Sometimes , my anger over an issue never truly fades .

Today we want to discuss this . If you struggle with unresolved anger , or if you are in a relationship with someone who does , this article is for you .

Why does the anger of some people never goes away ?

Repressing feelings during a conflict makes it more likely for anger to linger .

When we keep the anger with us , it can stay with us days or even months .

The worst part of all is getting things out of control and express our anger in ways and at times we don’t want . We don’t like it because we might come across as irrational . The truth is addressing the problem months ago might have made more sense that letting it fester .

Is there a connection between the intimacy and the anger?

Yes . Anger ends to surface more in close relationships . Close relationships can be very strong triggers because of the expectations and the importance of these bonds , the anger may last longer .

What should we do as a person who is dealing with the long anger ?

Awareness is key .

When we are aware that there is a pattern, we deal with it in a better way. Because we start to think : maybe it’s not about the person that I’m mad at, maybe it’s not about what they’ve done or what they’ve said .

Therapy helped me the most .
Express your thoughts and feelings .

To reduce tension, share your thoughts and feelings during the conflict instead of holding them in. It prevents overthinking and it really helps .

Being honest can be the healthiest way to figure your relationship out . And sometimes tension IS better than compromising.

Be aware that showing heightened emotions can push people away .

It can be scary for a lot of people . Be very careful what you say and whom you say it to.

What should we do if we are struggling with the person who is dealing with this anger issue .

Be a good listener .

Is this person always like this ? Or there is a trigger which you didn’t know about ? For instance , Are you unintentionally making them feel ignored or unimportant ?

Be patient but don’t forget about yourself . Set boundaries if their anger becomes harmful to your well-being .

Trying to “fix” everything might seem noble , but it often leads to burnout .if you constantly carry all the blame in relationship , it will lead to serious issues over time.