You’ve never experienced love until you’ve accepted it in full. Love is raw and ugly. Love is beautiful and harmless. Love is storms and sun. Love is a voyage and detours. Love is light and dark. Love is what we make it and what we don’t. Love is innocent and guilty. Love is possible but rare.
Love is so many things, not just one.
The word “love” is used so loosely that it’s lost its value. Many people haven’t experienced love like they thought they have. We think we’ve felt it but never even came close. We may love the surface of people and/or things but rarely do we love deep. I mean real, uncut, and unconditional love. Do you know what love really feels like?
Love Has Many Masks
Relationships are hard. That’s very cliché of me to say but it is the hardcore truth. Friends, family, lovers, or yourself, it doesn’t matter. It is difficult to really love someone, even if that someone is you. Love means through all trials and through all joy. “I will love all of you even if you’re flawed.”
It’s understandable that many of us would rather take a person for their best days versus their worst days because they’re easier to deal with. Never be ashamed to admit that because it’s part of the problem. How people deal with you on any day and in every way really displays how they feel about you. We are meant to be imperfect. We are flawed and that’s okay. So, are you ready to love?
When things get too hectic or too uncomfortable we run from love. Why? What is that about? Are we running because we lack proper knowledge of love? Or are we running because we know that it comes with a hefty price? The price is the change within us. Love will change you. It can make you angry. It can make you humble. Love can reveal something about you that you didn’t even know about. Love is crazy.
It Starts With You
For a long period of time, I tried my hardest to avoid looking in the mirror. I refused to accept certain things about me. I didn’t think I was “pretty” enough and often compared myself to others. Dealing with my own insecurities, I attracted others who were also struggling with their own identities. They would tell me their stories and I would tell them mine. Even though we were all in the same boat, I felt the “ugliest” of them all.
I depended on others to give me love, which then turned into me feeling like they owed me when they didn’t owe me anything. I owed myself but I couldn’t see that because I didn’t feel perfect enough to deserve that feeling. The feeling of love. I took the longest path to self love and found that people genuinely did not love me. I mean how could they? I didn’t even love myself.
When people didn’t show me love, I quickly became angry. I thought I couldn’t do it alone but I was wrong. You’re supposed to do it alone first. I would hide from the world in fear that if they seen me, they would see my flaws and my weaknesses. I came with a lot of baggage and trauma.
Until one day, I turned myself inside out and looked in the mirror longer than usual. I seen all of my imperfections pour out in front of me and it made this perfect picture. It made me whole. That’s when I took my tears and polished my picture.
The only person who can love you in full is you. You won’t ever know what real love is until you feel it in yourself first. Even the ugliest parts of you are the most beautiful parts about you.
You’ve never experienced love until you’ve accepted it in full. Love is raw and ugly. Love is beautiful and harmless. Love is storms and sun. Love is a voyage and detours. Love is light and dark. Love is what we make it and what we don’t. Love is innocent and guilty. Love is possible but rare.
Love is so many things, not just one.
The word “love” is used so loosely that it’s lost its value. Many people haven’t experienced love like they thought they have. We think we’ve felt it but never even came close. We may love the surface of people and/or things but rarely do we love deep. I mean real, uncut, and unconditional love. Do you know what love really feels like?
Love Has Many Masks
Relationships are hard. That’s very cliché of me to say but it is the hardcore truth. Friends, family, lovers, or yourself, it doesn’t matter. It is difficult to really love someone, even if that someone is you. Love means through all trials and through all joy. “I will love all of you even if you’re flawed.”
It’s understandable that many of us would rather take a person for their best days versus their worst days because they’re easier to deal with. Never be ashamed to admit that because it’s part of the problem. How people deal with you on any day and in every way really displays how they feel about you. We are meant to be imperfect. We are flawed and that’s okay. So, are you ready to love?
When things get too hectic or too uncomfortable we run from love. Why? What is that about? Are we running because we lack proper knowledge of love? Or are we running because we know that it comes with a hefty price? The price is the change within us. Love will change you. It can make you angry. It can make you humble. Love can reveal something about you that you didn’t even know about. Love is crazy.
It Starts With You
For a long period of time, I tried my hardest to avoid looking in the mirror. I refused to accept certain things about me. I didn’t think I was “pretty” enough and often compared myself to others. Dealing with my own insecurities, I attracted others who were also struggling with their own identities. They would tell me their stories and I would tell them mine. Even though we were all in the same boat, I felt the “ugliest” of them all.
I depended on others to give me love, which then turned into me feeling like they owed me when they didn’t owe me anything. I owed myself but I couldn’t see that because I didn’t feel perfect enough to deserve that feeling. The feeling of love. I took the longest path to self love and found that people genuinely did not love me. I mean how could they? I didn’t even love myself.
When people didn’t show me love, I quickly became angry. I thought I couldn’t do it alone but I was wrong. You’re supposed to do it alone first. I would hide from the world in fear that if they seen me, they would see my flaws and my weaknesses. I came with a lot of baggage and trauma.
Until one day, I turned myself inside out and looked in the mirror longer than usual. I seen all of my imperfections pour out in front of me and it made this perfect picture. It made me whole. That’s when I took my tears and polished my picture.
The only person who can love you in full is you. You won’t ever know what real love is until you feel it in yourself first. Even the ugliest parts of you are the most beautiful parts about you.
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Previously published on medium
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