Love when genuine and lost can lead to a broken heart.
I remember a good friend of mine once saying, no matter what she did, the pain wasn’t going away.
Unfortunately there is no physical medication that you can take to heal a broken heart.
However, there is one approach that can eventually ease the loss of a relationship.
It’s common to feel disappointed when a relationship doesn’t work out and especially if you envisioned a future with your former partner.
Time doesn’t really heal wounds, though a common adage.
Over time I have realized that clients who do the following things, learn and grow and become more confident of themselves after a relationship ends.
Take the time to grieve the loss — You had expectations and hopes, it is therefore necessary to grieve the loss of what was hoped for. Many times persons rush into another relationship dooming it to an end even before it begins!
Taking time to grieve the loss is necessary to not transfer the anger, hurt to an unsuspecting new partner.
Own and name the various emotions you feel about the loss. It is important to identify how you are feeling through the emotions you are experiencing.
Taking time to identify and understand why you are experiencing these emotions from the breakup is necessary for healing to occur.
Seek someone you can talk with – It can be a friend or a therapist. Seeking support and help is a sign of strength not weakness.
It may take sharing the same story many times to work through and process all that you are experiencing. Someone who will just truly listen.
Reach out to others who have experienced the loss of expectation in a desired relationship. While no two persons may experience the same exact emotions. Talking with someone who had similar experience can offer you the opportunity to “grow through”.
Connect with your spiritual self — Whatever form or fashion that will resemble. It can be pray, meditation and yoga, mindfulness. This helps to center you and find a calm and peace.
Take a trip or change your daily environment temporarily . A change of pace and environment does wonders to bring healing to a hurting heart, by having time to relax and just be without the usual hassle of daily living and routine.
Help others — It may sound simplistic, but as you reach out to help others who are hurting in some way, it helps ease your pain.
There isn’t any easy solution to a hurting heart.
However, taking time to express and experience the emotions, finding support from others and then reaching out to help others, goes a long way in creating the space to “grow through” a broken heart.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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