Successful dating is all about building on your strengths. And, as a writer, writing is your strength. Successful dating is also all about allowing your date to show and build on their strengths. And, as a writer, what’s a better platform to do that than on your writing webpage?
I’m a writer and a (married) dater; below is my recipe to mix and stir the two for a tasty dating life.
Write about your swiping experience to help you with the tedious selection process.
Nothing like writing about something to understand what are your true feelings about it. Your swiping experience should be meticulously accounted for in (journal) articles.
Carefully writing about the pros and cons of the profiles on your swiping desk can help. Even more effective will be to write about how they make you feel. The writing exercise will help you sort the wheat from the chaff.
And whether you plan on going all Hannibal Lecter on your date or not (please don’t), you better keep the options open.
Write a thank-you piece after the date.
And send the link to your date. Best-case scenario, your dating partner is also a blogger and can ping back to your article!
The piece can be insightful for both partners.
For you, writing a thank-you article is an opportunity for increased self-awareness. (And to practice your writing skills). And don’t forget to celebrate all the little things your date did to make you happy. It will be like experiencing them all over again.
For your date, it’s crystal clear feedback served on a golden plate. They’ll know what to stop, what to start, and what to do more. That’s precious, especially at the beginning of a relationship.
Use your writing webpage as a platform to showcase your date’s ideas and wittiness.
Your date can comment on past pieces (bringing them back to the algorithms’ attention and discovering secret –juicy- sides of your personality).
You can co-write a piece with your date (that’s very likely to be the most original date ever).
Or you can plan on creating a new writing webpage together (spend the date preparing the blueprints and put them to good use in the future).
Capitalize on your dating experience.
If the date was a disaster. That’s precious material for your article (in the Huffpost) titled: 101 Things to Avoid While Dating.
If the date was a success. First of all, YAY. Second, that’s golden material for your piece titled: My 7 Strategies For a Successful Date.
Writing these articles won’t only bring followers to your writing webpage. It will help with the (essential) introspection process of sorting yourself out. It’s crucial to do so. As Carl Jung (almost) wrote:
Text a lot; and on multiple platforms.
Text with your (soon to be) date. Send them the beautifully crafted messages you’ve been receiving from readers of your pieces. Or write your own. The latter is better; the former could be a breach of anti-plagiarism rules.
Why should you use different platforms?
It will make it more complicated to block you (that’s not a place you want to be in)
You can show the multiple aspects of your personality.
Not to confuse apples and pears, use one app for logistics and another for hot and sexy texting. Is there anything worse than seeing a message about the toilet paper we forgot to buy, followed by an “I want you” type of message? I don’t want to even think about linking the two in my brain.
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What comes next? And how to plan for the future?
Next are the passionate letters and e-mails. Next are the postcards with love haiku. Your date will love them. Wouldn’t you love to receive them as well?
But, after a while, once an established couple, hedonic adaptation will kick in, and you’ll forget about writing some more of them.
In the beginning, the so-called passionate period, each time you write one letter, write another one. That’s right, write two, but send just one of them. Keep the other for the future, when you’re in troubled water.
When your relationship is in dire times, reminding yourselves of the first bursts of passion might be all you need to save it.
This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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