Dr. Christopher Rodgers Shares Passionate Thought About the Condition We Call Love
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“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” ~Robert Heinlein
Maria Robinson once wrote, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Such choices typically lie not only with when to start over, but how to start over. There are life changing events making this decision extremely difficult and in some cases, nearly impossible. The heart yearns for what it desires and that is love – and love only in the truest sense. Anything less, leaves one feeling unfulfilled and unwanted.
Unconditional love is a work in progress; and unyielding sacrifice between two people who are committed to something they believe in that is bigger than themselves. It requires faith, pray, togetherness, understanding, trust, honesty, compassion, dedication and commitment; one element equally as significant as the other. New beginnings involve making changes that ultimately promote and produce new endings. As Anthony Robbins said, ““If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” When it comes to love, for changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent. Love is an act of endless forgiveness.
For me, love has been a test of patience, maturity and forgiveness; and feeling of ambivalence and ambiguity. However, when you least expect it and when you think you have reached a point of uncertainty or lack of faith in the concept of love entirely, along comes a breeze of fresh air, a feeling of serenity, peace and fulfillment in the form of who you least expected. The plan for soul mates to cross paths is all apart of the plan – God’s plan – regardless to what timeline we are on.
Many of us believe in our heart that we choose our mate, in which we alone are in control of the decision and never rely on faith. Then we sit and wonder, “why oh why did this happen again?” “How did I pick the same person?” It is because we often spend more time choosing than waiting to be chosen. We lose faith in the belief that there is someone in the world for me but I can’t wait…”I’m getting older,” “I want what I want now”…and then you get what you rushed for…an unplanned, unintended event of consequences that are outcomes stemming from poor decisions and actions. Robert Brault said, “To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower a person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.” Many of you, who read my posts, understand the passion and emotion fueling my writing. You may have misconstrued my passion with anger or resentment. However, that was hardly the case.
My writing is catharsis, a purging and purification of my heart and soul removing “the cancer filling one’s life with disappointment and frustration.” The truth is, it was my decision, my lack of lack of faith, my unwillingness to wait and be chosen leaving me with companions completely incompatible and incapable of love, at least in how I perceived love to be. So, I allowed time to pass, renewed my faith and gained a strong sense of patience and understanding. Then, I know when I open that metaphorical door of faith again, in will come a fresh breeze, a feeling of serenity, peace and fulfillment.
Post originally appeared on the blog Straight Talk No Chaser
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Lovely!