‘I’ve always stayed positive and was kind!”
What a crock of sh*t!
I’ve been down that long road of “Science of Mind”, doing affirmations of positivity all day long; I studied hard and took a class to be certified. I made it my life.
I eventually found a place of “what the hell”? I questioned it. I explored other methods and theories.
I found evidence that indeed it is depressing to the human brain to constantly “be positive”. I researched and found that people are happier, long-term when they have a mixture of both positive and negative.
You cannot bash “POSITIVE” INTO YOUR BRAIN! At least I couldn’t. Affirmations felt to me like being hit in the head…. and I was doing it to myself. I also had other people correcting me on my words or thoughts. I engulfed my world with positive.
I found “The Work”. A method of questioning our thoughts.
I finally found a way to really be in the reality of life; judgments happen, negative thoughts happen, unkindness happens….. Etc.
I learned to question my thinking, my judgments. I also learned that it is utter f**ing bulls**t to be positive all the time.
One thing I’m positive about is that I will be HUMAN!
I WILL EXPERIENCE THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY, THE SAD, THE POSITIVE AND THE NEGATIVE!!! I’m all of it.
I’m almost always positive in the fact that I trust myself to make lemonade out of lemons. I’m a go-getter. I’m the one that if I get punched down, I’ll get back up.
Is there a place where everyone says the right thing all the time, in the right tone? NO, NO, NO!!!
If they do, there is most likely part of them that is being suppressed or denied.
I DO NOT STRIVE TO BE POLLYANNA AND POSITIVE AND KIND (WHATEVER THAT IS) ALL THE TIME!
THAT IS INHUMAN……… IT IS!
I’ve learned a lot on this journey as me and I have a wisdom that only comes from experience and deep inner work.
I’ve done a lot of work on what “kind” is, and this year has been one of the greatest teachers of “kind”. Others have different ideas of what kind is. They may actually be very certain their version of “kind” is absolute. That doesn’t mean it is kind to me or everyone else. Kind is most certainly relative to anyone’s interpretation.
When someone throws at me that I’m unkind….. ( of course I am, when I am) ….. that is relative! That doesn’t define me as an “unkind” person. What I know about me, I’m human. I’m as kind as I can be and sometimes that kind has to be to myself and not the other person ( in their mind).
In the heart of most of us, we are doing what we feel is kind. Our intention is to be kind. We just need to not use “kind” as a weapon against those that have different views of “kind”.
Let’s just be human.
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