The World’s “Most Wanted Girlfriend” Thinks You’re Settling…

Most women think they know exactly what they want in a man — until they get treated like an afterthought and wonder why they keep picking the wrong ones. Maybe it’s because they take dating advice from the lady pictured above, who has a COMPLETELY different experience than most other women.

Vera Dijkmans, a model with over 7 million followers and self-proclaimed “most wanted girlfriend,” has seen it all. After launching a viral boyfriend application that drew 5,000 hopefuls, she didn’t find love, surprise. surprise.

But she did apparently uncover a hard truth: Women are accepting the bare minimum in dating, and it’s ruining their chances at real romance.

That’s what she says.

But who on God’s green earth is filling out an application to be her boyfriend?

More importantly, think very logically here and really concentrate.

Do you really think the kind of man she actually wants would humiliate himself by filling out a boyfriend application on TikTok? Come on. A man with dignity and confidence isn’t lining up like a contestant on some digital dating game show. It’s TikTok, fucking Tiktok.

Here’s some of her dating advice.

1 | You Get What You Accept — Apparently, Most Women Are Accepting Too Little

The biggest mistake? Lowering your standards because you’re afraid of missing out. According to Dijkmans, women today let men get away with behaviors that scream “bare-minimum effort.”

🚨 Late-night texts saying, “Come over.” 🚨
🚨 Last-minute plans with no real thought put in. 🚨
🚨 Cheap, effort-free dates. 🚨

“These are all signs he doesn’t take you seriously,” Dijkmans warns. “A man who values you won’t treat you like an afterthought.”

You’ve all heard these tired and lame-ass talking points before, right?

Dijkmans’ take is the dating equivalent of a rich kid telling you, “Just buy a mansion, it’s not that hard.” She’s living in a world where men bend over backward for her, not because of her “high standards,” but because they’re blinded by her looks. Just look at her pictures, they’re all there to garner attention from lackluster men who can only dream of dating a woman that LOOKs like her.

Attraction isn’t built on vapid demands and ultimatums, and anyone who makes and receives what they want has a relationship built on sand. If women want a man to value them, be someone worth valuing, not just another voice in the crowd shouting, “I deserve more. Cause I’m hot”

Cause, as far as I see, that’s the only real thing she’s offering.

Attraction is earned, not demanded. If your only currency is looks, your worth will always be tied to an expiration date.

2 | A First Date Should Set the Standard — Not Lower It

Ah, yes, the classic one-sided paradigm of “you should impress me, I’ll show up and decide if you’re worth it.” Are any of you men turned on yet?

Dijkmans’ rule? If a man won’t take you somewhere nice, plan something thoughtful, or put effort into making a great first impression, don’t bother giving him a second chance.

She’s not wrong, to be fair.

But taking her somewhere nice doesn’t have to be costly I also have never agreed with the paradigm of trying to impress women. It doesn’t work.

She said, “A proper date isn’t just about money. A man should want to impress you, show initiative, and make you feel special.”

There’s some truth in that — but also a lie. A man should take the lead, but he can’t manufacture attraction or force a woman to feel special. That feeling isn’t something you give — it’s something she chooses to experience. All you can do is set the stage for connection. The rest? That’s on her.

You can be the most composed, confident man in the room, but if she isn’t interested, it won’t matter. Attraction is a mirror, not a command.

3 | If He’s Not Thoughtful, He’s Not Worth It?

Contrary to popular belief, expecting a little effort doesn’t make you a gold digger, right? It makes you a woman who knows her worth.

“A thoughtful man brings something to show he cares — a small gift, a bouquet, something that shows he values your time,” says Dijkmans.

💎 Expensive gifts from Louis Vuitton and Hermès are nice, sure.
🌹 But a simple bouquet of flowers? That’s just as powerful.
🛑 No gesture at all? That’s a problem.

“If a man can’t even think of one small way to show appreciation, why should you waste time on him?”

And what does the man get in return?

Why you get the pleasure of her company of course.

Nothing more, nothing less.

This is a classic case of expectation inflation wrapped in an annoying, self-righteous bow. The issue isn’t that women want effort, I encourage men to make an effort with women — it’s the assumption that a man’s worth is measured by material gestures.

A guy showing up with flowers or gifts doesn’t prove he values you; it proves he understands the game you expect him to play. It’s a first date; he doesn’t actually know you at all. He just knows the century-old tradition of winning women over with monetary means.

Real appreciation isn’t transactional. It’s in the way he listens, the way he respects your time and the way he chooses to be there. Demanding proof of “value” through gifts reduces relationships to commerce, not connection.

A gift given in obligation is a price tag, but a gift given in sincerity is a promise.

4 | If He’s Inconsistent, He’s Playing Games

🚩 Only messages sporadically.
🚩 Says one thing but does another?
🚩 Has double standards — expects you to be put together while he’s a mess?

Cut him off. Immediately.

“A man who respects you is clear about his intentions. If he’s wishy-washy, inconsistent, or treating you like an option, believe him.”

She made some fair points to be honest.

But this take is half-truths wrapped in self-serving rhetoric. Yes, inconsistency can be a red flag — but the assumption that all men who don’t meet rigid, on-demand communication standards are “playing games” is just childish.

Life happens. Some men work late. Some are introverted. Some just aren’t glued to their phones like an attention-starved influencer.

5 | Confidence Isn’t About Looks — It’s About Boundaries

Dijkmans knows she has “pretty privilege,” but she insists her confidence comes from something deeper — how she carries herself.

Bahahahahahahahaha. Just look at her Instagram and TikTok. Someone who’s so confident in things other than her looks, every other picture she posts is a scantily clad thirst trap. Every other video starts with a full-body shot with her back turned and accentuating her butt.

Yeah, okay.

She doesn’t tolerate disrespect.

She sets boundaries. And that’s what makes her magnetic.

“You don’t need millions of followers to have high standards. You just need the confidence to know you deserve better.”

Said the person with 1.4 million followers.

C’mon man.

She’s playing in all of your faces. Peeing on you and telling it’s raining. How on earth do people fall for this grift time and time again?

Imagine a Lebron James telling you that you don’t need training; just believe you can dunk from the free-throw line. Confidence is cute, but gravity doesn’t care.

Here’s what the world’s “Most Wanted Girlfriend” Is Not Telling You

Most women think they know exactly what they want in a man — until they realize the men they want aren’t playing by their rules.

Vera Dijkman’s advice might sound empowering from an obvious Tiktok pop feminist angle, but let’s get one thing straight — it only works for her because she’s attractive and is a digital panhandler who shows off her body for views and likes. She has no idea what dating actually looks like for the average woman.

No idea.

Vera Dijkmans giving dating advice to the average woman is like a lottery winner teaching people how to get rich — her entire reality is an exception, not the rule. She’s an Instagram model with 7 million followers, a body sculpted to perfection, and an inbox overflowing with men simping for her attention.

The average woman? She’s working a 9-to-5, juggling bills, dodging creeps in her DMs, and trying to make it through the day without possibly getting hit on by her boss.

The “Princess Treatment” Only Works If Men Already See You as a Queen

Dijkmans says, “I want the princess treatment because that is what I deserve.”

💡 Translation: Men treat me like royalty because I’m beautiful, and you should expect the same.

First — no one, not a man, not a woman, not anyone on this earth, is entitled to anything other than simple respect.

But here’s the problem — most men aren’t throwing themselves at every woman like they do for her. She’s living in a world where men bend over backward because they’re mesmerized by her looks. She doesn’t have to play by the same rules as other women, especially with such a large following of parched cretins.

🚨 A beautiful woman can say, “He must bring me a gift, plan an extravagant date, and chase me endlessly,” and some poor guy will still do it cause they don’t have any self-respect or identity.
🚨 The average woman, on the other hand? If she demands this, most men will just move on to someone else or play their part till they get laid.

Men don’t chase effort. They chase beauty. Dijkmans’ entire dating experience is shaped by pretty privilege — something she conveniently ignores when giving advice it’s insane; people don’t immediately catch this.

She Has No Clue What Most Men Actually Want

I keep telling you men to STOP TAKING DATING ADVICE from women. They have no idea of lived experience, nor are they empathetic to it unless they’re making money off of your sorry ass. But you’ll likely ignore me and passively simp over some moderately attractive female dating coach.

Dijkmans says, “A man should take you on a proper date — like going out for dinner or doing an activity together.”

Look, putting in effort is great. But the men she dates aren’t doing this because of her “high standards.” They’re doing it because they’re hoping to land an Instagram model.

🚨 Men don’t jump through hoops because they respect her — they do it because they want to sleep with her. I’m legit baffled that women can’t see this sometimes.
🚨 Her beauty is what makes men tolerate her demands, not her personality, charm, or intelligence.

But at this point, she’s too far gone. She probably believes she’s a Rhodes Scholar the way these clowns masquerading as men gas her up.

Women who look like have no idea what actually makes a man want to commit. Sure she can say, “just set high standards” all she wants, but most men don’t fall in love with a woman because she demands gifts.

A man wants loyalty. A man wants kindness. A man wants a woman who makes his life easier — not one who treats him like a walking credit card.

Why would you take dating advice from someone who’s never had to try?

🚨 Would you take business advice from someone who inherited a billion dollars?
🚨 Would you take fitness advice from a guy who’s never been overweight a day in his life?
🚨 Would you take survival advice from someone who’s never faced hardship?

Then why take dating advice from a woman who lives in a world where men lose all logic and reason around her?

Her Reality Is Built on Weak Men Who Don’t Set Boundaries

The real reason Dijkmans gets what she wants isn’t because she’s some dating genius — it’s because men don’t set boundaries with attractive women. Look, I can fess up. I was guilty of that. 10 YEARS AGO. But I learned the game very quickly when I dropped $87 dollars on dinner and got ghosted.

Never again.

Men who worship beauty over self-respect enable women like her to believe they deserve the world just for existing.

🚨 If men collectively stopped chasing women like lost lil puppies, women like Dijkmans would have to play by the same rules as everyone else and actually work for a living.
🚨 If men valued their own time, money, and emotional energy, they’d realize that chasing superficial women leads nowhere — trust me. They’re more of a headache than you realize.
🚨 If men had their own standards, they’d stop putting women on pedestals and start demanding real value in return.

So what does this mean for you?

Start living in reality.

Vera Dijkmans can afford to live in a fantasy world where men compete for her. But the average woman? She can’t. And if women and men keep taking advice from women like this, they’ll only set themselves up for failure.

📌 Stop treating beauty like it’s the only thing that matters.
📌 Stop listening to women who have no idea what the dating market looks like for you.
📌 Start setting your own boundaries, because the moment you do, women will start respecting you more.

The moment you stop chasing, you start winning.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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