
You’re merely seeing her around, but your heart is pounding hard.
You’re hesitant to approach her. You start asking
- Where do I start from or which approach style should I use?
- What if she doesn’t like me?
- What if she’s already in a relationship?
- What if I make a mistake and embarrass myself?
- What if she rejects or embarrasses me?
- What if the people around judge me?
What ifs….
Peeuw! Before you know it, the moment is gone.
That’s it!
Hesitation is one of the reasons some matured men are still single. It’s the reason some men struggle in dating.
Hesitation comes with overthinking, overthinking kills confidence and attraction.
But there’s a way out. It’s a simple trick that can instantly change the way women perceive you. It’s so powerful that it is also backed up by research and science. It will make you be seen as confident, either you feel it or not.
This simple trick is called…
the 3-Second Rule
What Is the 3-Second Rule?
This rule is meant to help men who freeze up whenever they see women they like. It simply states that you have just three seconds to take action or not—whenever you see a woman you like.
This action doesn’t necessarily mean talking to her, it might just be making eye contact or just saying “hi” or anything that comes to your mind. It might just be a compliment.
This implies you rely on your impulse. No hesitation, no second-guessing or doubting.
Why does this work?
Confidence is attractive, it’s one of the things women look for in their guy. However, confidence is not a complete absence of fear, it’s acting despite being fearful.
Why the 3-Second Rule Works (Backed by Science)
Different studies have shown that one of the factors that antagonize we human beings, is our Brain.
Once you want to do something good and probably risky, our brain will fill us many reasons we shouldn’t take the risk. Generally human brain. Is usually against risks taking, it always encourage “Caution”. Studies in psychology by NCBI says:
The brain creates excuses to protect you from “perceived” threats.
This usually lead to hesitation to approach women. Unfortunately, no one can progress, excel or succeed without risk taking. The longer you wait, the more anxious you will be.
This is why the 3-second rule snaps things up and prevent your brain to feed your mind with reasons not to approach:
With this rule you will be able to approach any woman with natural confidence without overthinking yourself into inaction.
How to Apply the 3-Second Rule in Real Life
The cornerstone of the success of this rule requires a shift in mindset. And of might not come easily, depending on how chronic this issue of hesitation is with each Individual. Here’s how to use it:
1.Resolve you’re going to go after any woman you see without any rehearsal, overthinking or preparation.
2. Stop waiting for the perfect time. Remember, this doesn’t mean you won’t be hesitant, just swing into action regardless and never worry if you make any mistakes or not.
3. Just Focus on the action, not the result. The code is to focus a default “action” not “perfection”. You may just say “hi”, ask for her name, drop her a compliment.
The Results: What Happens When You Use the 3-Second Rule?
The results I have heard from men that have used this 3-second rule before are as reported below:
1. Confidence grew from the first approach and conversation went on interestingly and naturally longer than expected.
2. It was realized that the usual initial fear is really nonexistent and the fear of rejection is unreal. The more actions you take the more you realize all the initial fear and hesitations are no big deal.
3. They are getting more connections, acquaintance friends, more phone numbers and dates. Instead of waiting for the right moments.
4. Improved and more attractive personality was developed in all areas or life not just in dating. Being action oriented makes you more focused on activities instead just results which is a wonderful mindset in every aspects of life.
Final Thoughts: Confidence Is an Habit
Confidence is an habit. Some people naturally have it, in some aspect of life you need few steps to build confidence, onrvof the steps is the 3-seconds rule.
Some men just expect confdence to comr before taking actions. Today, I say to you, confidence come mostly when we confront our fears.
“Confidence comes from actions”
This 3-Second Rule make you the man who moves first, without fear. Remember, next time you see a woman you’re attracted to—don’t wait, go after her!
Just count one to three seconds and go!
To your dating success!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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