Despite your best efforts, it is still conceivable that a potential love interest won’t react to a relationship with the same amount of warmth and dedication that you anticipate. Some people might prefer to be honest and tell you that this relationship is doomed. Others might decide to be evasive in the hope that you will eventually spot the signs and recognize what’s happening. The following are 10 indications that a relationship is a total waste of time.
No Common Ground
Are you able to recall the activities you engaged in together when your relationship first started? Even though it happens frequently over time for each partner to find their position in the relationship, it’s uncommon for married couples to give up all of their joint interests and pastimes. If you and your partner no longer engage in any enjoyable or stimulating activities, you may want to consider that the health of your relationship may be suffering.
Physical meetings becoming reduced
Partners place a lot of stress on how they come across to one another in the early stages of a relationship. Over time, the partners in a relationship become far less concerned with the need to appear to be “ideal” for one another as the amount of familiarity in the relationship increases. However, if you see a dramatic decline in your partner’s hygiene and appearance, it can be a sign that they aren’t any longer concerned with your opinion of their attractiveness. The fact that your spouse has absolutely no interest in the relationship shows that they are unhappy in it and could care less whether you stay or leave. Maintaining this kind of connection in this situation may be nothing more than a waste of time. You never cease to emphasize the same ideas in the same way, do you?
If the conversations you have about it seem to have lost their freshness and still focus on the same arguments, it is obvious that the state of your relationship is precarious. Usually, the first sign of a relationship going bad is the inability to express one’s thoughts and feelings in a healthy way.
You are out of your partner’s plans
Is your partner’s dream of retiring by the sea with a private beach house and a luxury yacht at the top of the list, or does he or she also consider the potential of opening a business one day? If this is the case, or something similar, it means that your marriage won’t last very long because they don’t have any plans for you in the future. This means that your relationship is doomed to fail if it is the case or if something similar happens. Unless, of course, they experience a life-changing event that gives them profound insight into the importance of a committed relationship; in that case, they are again placing too much faith in chance and are not deserving of your attention. You don’t need to pay attention to them in this situation. He or she does not attempt to learn anything about you.
Contrary to what was said earlier, a person who dislikes you won’t be curious to hear about your aspirations for the future or your life’s ambitions. Regardless of the subject’s gender, this is accurate. He or she is happy with how plain and at ease, things are right now. He or she is not interested in knowing how many kids you want to have or whether you want to live in the suburbs someday. It’s probably time to break things off and find someone else who will fill that hole in your life if your date isn’t willing to commit emotionally more to the relationship.
Communications becoming boring
The first indication that something is wrong in a relationship is often when two people are unable to vocally connect. On the other hand, you shouldn’t equate this peacefulness with the peace that characterizes a happy and sustained marriage. Two people can get so comfortable with one another that they can sit across from one another quietly without feeling the need to start a discussion. On the other hand, when a couple’s relationship is failing, the ensuing silence produces a situation where the two don’t have anything left to talk about.
Your buddy has run out of new ideas to share.
It’s possible that they won’t have anything to do once you’ve spent the evening with them, going out to dinner and dancing included. The fact that your partner seems to be rejecting all of your ideas is even more painful. If someone truly cares about you, they will make the effort to think of original date ideas for you that involve enjoying the great outdoors and doing exciting things together. You are wasting your time with someone if they seem uninterested in hanging out with you or simply want to meet up for a sexual encounter.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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