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Wedded bliss can be difficult to maintain. You can quote me on that. In fact, it can be downright impossible at even the best of times. Because of the culture we live in these days, it seems that unless things are perfect all the time then we’re simply not ‘living our best lives’, and we all deserve that, right? It’s only a short hop and skip before you start thinking that because you’re not perfectly happy with your partner right now then maybe there’s someone else who’d you be better off with.
But that’s just not the case.
There can be an infinite number of reasons why a marriage might not be picture perfect. In fact, talking to people who’ve maintained a healthy relationship for several decades will teach you that it rarely is. While the list below is not exhaustive it may give some good indicators of how to go about solving your relationship dilemmas.
Retrace Your Steps
When you’re in your darkest places it can be tricky to understand how you got there. While it may be difficult and painful it’s important to retrace the path that brought you here. Once you and your partner understand where things went wrong or at least changed then you can start to work on what steps you can take now. This might lead to more clarity down the line for how your relationship will progress and how similar problems may be avoided in future.
You’re Not Your Partner’s Mood
While that may seem obvious to some to others it is not. Too often we can feel that we’re not being as supportive as possible if we don’t reflect our partner’s moods. This can result in us feeling low or like we’re being dragged down by our partner. This is neither person’s fault but just something that you need to be aware of as it can happen all too easily. If this is the case, you need to talk to your partner about it and try to be as honest as possible without hurting each other’s feelings.
Make time for each other again
The reason why your marriage is slipping could just be that you’re not spending enough time with each other. Maybe it’s work or just being too tired from staying up late bingeing on Netflix and not really communicating. Carve time out of your schedule any way you can. Make the time to listen to your partner, to spend quality time with each other, not just both facing the direction watching a movie. Rent a tandem bicycle, hike a mountain and get tired together half-way up. Most importantly, be together.
Try CBD
Cannabidiol (CBD) is having a bit of a moment these days. There are many wonderful benefits to be had from CBD like its ability to combat inflammation and ease the pain in aching muscles. It’s also a wonderful way to relax. CBD can help people overcome anxiety and give them the breathing space to relax. If you’re finding time with your partner anxiety-inducing because you’re just not sure where things are headed perhaps CBD could clear your head enough to have a real conversation about it.
Listen to Each Other
This might seem like an easy one but it’s easy to overlook. It’s important that you start to really listen to each other. The best kind of listening is one that isn’t just passive but active and engaged. Make sure you’re asking questions and if your partner isn’t doing likewise call them on it. Love is a two-way street after all.
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