Top Reasons Why You Get Rejected By Women

Mostly, these are the most common problems I see after working with so many different men resolve their dating issues. I almost guarentee that you have one of these problems if you keep getting rejected by women.

Reason #1 — Neediness
There’s nothing wrong with liking a girl a lot, the problem is when you start putting her life over your own. You start treating her like a queen and center your life around hers. Women tend to hate it, because it signals that you have nothing going on in your own life.

Reason #2 — Bad Mindset
I’m always surprised by this, this applies to women as well. People date others not because they like them as a person, but because they are running away from their need for sex or avoiding loneliness. If you make dating about tending your survival needs, you won’t get very far. Even if you get yourself into a relationship, it will be a dysfunctional one based on needs, rather than connection.

Reason #3 — Lack Of Leadership
Part of this equation is knowing with your social intuition when to move the interaction forward by judging her consent. An uncalibrated or awkward attempt to move the interaction forward will lead to rejection. Do not force or escalation, if it’s the right time, then it will occur naturally and smoothly.

Reason #4 — Too Logical
Attraction is based on spiking emotions, so if you can’t get her excited about meeting you, having fun and so fourth you’re going to lose her attraction. Try your best to bring forth the fun, lighthearted guy who don’t take things too seriously. Don’t get into heavy disagreements or step on landmine sensitive topics that could potentially ruin the atmosphere, only do that once you’re in comfort (see my post on that).

Reason #5 — Showing Off
Women dislike men who show off (wink wink, anyone comes to mind?). Cool people do not try to show off because they understand the value they bring to the table. Their value is so obvious that “flashing” it is not required. Only low value men puff up smoke up their ass to compensate. This is the core reason why disqualification works as a technique.

Reason #6 — Deceit And Paying Lip Service
You’ll commonly understand this as “breaking your frame.” One moment you are this cool guy and then you got shit tested and exposed as this loser! That’s why you should never be fake and inauthentic, since that will cause women to shit test you. Can’t fail a shit test if it doesn’t occur right? Be honest and remain congruent (authentic).

Reason #7 — No Social Skills
This is bascially creepiness. If you don’t have the social skills to execute your socially suave moves, then you will be labelled as creepy. The only way to not be “creepy” is to practice your social skills, meaning, you may accidentally come across as creepy for a period of time until you are not.

Reason #8 — You Reject Yourself
If you do not muster up your courage to date others with vulnerability, you won’t get very far. Heartbreak is part of your life’s journey to find a suitable partner. Be compassionate with yourself, be willing to make mistakes and see it as a way to improve yourself. Growth mindset.

Reason #9 — You Do Not Reflect On Your Experience
You might take a victimized approach to dating or you just brute force into one date after another without seriously reflecting on your mistakes. Dating is a skill just like any other, and you need to make adjustments after every mistake, which brings us to the next point.

Reason #10 — You Take It Too Personally
When things go wrong (which it will), it does not reflect who you are. It took me 4 years of trial and error going on hundreds of dates before I consistently found success. How many dates have you gone on? Probably not enough. It’s nothing personal, patch your wounds and keep going. You will be proud of yourself when looking back.

That’s it for me. Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.com

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This post was previously published on medium.com.