I recently watched Brene’ Brown’s video The Anatomy of Trust and though I’ve read almost all of her books, and really resonate with their messages, this was new for me. I loved it!
I’ve done research on Attachment Theory and have come to see that often a secure attachment style dates and relates differently than the majority of the other attachment styles. Trust isn’t automatic with them: it is developed.
Trust is a big deal to many of us. It is the foundation of what we build our relationships, romantic or otherwise. Yet, often times we fall short on really developing that strong base.
Talking to as many people as I do, I continually hear “I trust automatically until I’m shown different”.
I’ve found that to be a cop-out or a lazy way to go through dating and relating.
I’m very careful to really watch the man I’m dating when I hear this from him. Often times there might be a motive behind it. I notice some people just going around divulging everything privately to anyone they see.
It can be freeing to be that open, but I question if it is really vulnerable.
Is it? It feels to me like another way to avoid the time and energy of waiting to see if the marble jar is full of actions meeting words and this person demonstrating that they can be trusted. It’s a form of emotional vomiting.
Living wholeheartedly isn’t the easiest way to live and yet after many practices of living BRAVING and being honest about boundaries it can get easier and your “TRUST” muscle will get stronger.
Trust is an important element in building a truly amazing relationship with someone. It is an opportunity to live and love as a trusting person.
I really recommend you watch this video. Again, here is the link.
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Living in the way of boundaries and discernment creates authentic trust and so does learning to hold others accountable (as you do yourself) for what they do not follow through on. It’s reciprocal. It’s amazing!
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