
Anytime a company introduces a protective policy with women’s safety in mind, there is always a subset of men who can’t help themselves but have a problem with it.
In 2021, Blush Fitness, an all-female gym, faced vitriolic reactions from men after going viral on TikTok for adopting some of the most stringent safety measures, like tinted windows to prevent prying eyes from peeking in or a notification system for when male staff members would be working inside the gym.
And this was despite female-only gyms being commonplace. It certainly did not stop men from hurling words like discrimination and segregation around.
Going further back, in 2019, the female-only co-working space The Wing faced similar backlash, even going as far as getting sued by a DC man to the tune of 12 million smackaroonies, leading them to drop the female-only moniker altogether.
Further back still, in 2014, the New York-based SheRides service hit the scene, offering exclusively female drivers to female riders. Customers could order a driver clad in a pink pashmina via their Apple app, and it was supposed to provide an equal playing field for female drivers in a traditionally male-dominated industry.
At a time, only 5% of for-hire drivers in New York were women. Sadly, the venture faced a shortage of drivers and the same tired old tropes about it being discriminatory, leading to its demise.
And here we are in 2025.
Uber is now rolling out a new ride-hailing feature called “Women Preferences” that will only allow women to hail female drivers and for female drivers to only accept trip requests from other women. You can find full details on how the system works on the official Uber website by clicking here.
According to the company, this feature is in response to requests by women customers and drivers who said they “want the option to be matched with other women on trips.”
And why so?
Well, because Uber has faced allegations and lawsuits related to sexual harassment and assault, both involving drivers and within the company’s workplace. And this is one way of attracting and retaining women by creating safer environments.
Yet, the menz are not okay with it. May I present Exhibit A:
Maybe men should point the finger at themselves
Sorry to break it to the men who believe this is some sexist move.
No, it’s anything but.
I would even argue it’s not even discrimination. Men are not being barred from being drivers or customers. Uber is just giving women the option to choose, given that so many of you are damn creeps.
Do you guys realize that, according to Uber’s safety report, between 2017 and 2022, there were 12,522 sexual assault incidents reported? In this time frame, 31% of sexual assault incidents were reported against riders, and 68% were against drivers.
And get this…
89% of the victims were women.
So, hell yeah, women do need measures put in place to help protect them. It just makes business sense. Uber is not doing this from the goodness of their hearts; it’s a means to an end. If they do nothing to address women’s safety issues, there’s a good chance they could start hemorrhaging female customers.
Perhaps if men collectively started pointing the finger at other men, instead of blaming the victims, who are predominantly women, this kind of drastic measure wouldn’t be needed.
Though I do agree they should also have the same feature for men to balance things out.
But come on, let’s call a spade a spade, and not a big spoon.
We all know that few, if any, heterosexual men are going to be choosing to restrict themselves only to other men.
In fact, I’m convinced that if you offer male drivers the option to accept female customers, the vast majority of them would take it instead, because men know the danger is not with other women, but it’s with other men.
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