Writer Karen Jones wants gals who catch men doing self-deprecating humor to encourage them to stop. Then tell them how great they are, instead.
It happened again; yet another man who seemed resigned to being a member of the “men are useless” club.
Just this morning, I was having this lovely chat with a guy from the gas company while he was replacing the meters, and he said something I hear way too many men say some version of:
“Well, we (meaning men) have to be good for something!”
How I responded – immediately, and to his surprise, was:
“No! You don’t get to do that with me, the woman who wrote a book called Men are Great…sorry.”
And we proceeded to have the most wonderful conversation about how men are way too comfortable with self-deprecating “humor”, and with how men are being talked about (pretty much everywhere). We talked about how the truth is that it really does bother most men.
But you men can’t afford to look like pussies and complain, right? So you suck it up, and not only listen to/watch/read the awful ways you’re portrayed, but – and this is where you have got to cut it out – join in and perpetuate the negative ways in which you’re represented.
Please know that it harms you. We humans are so impacted by language. Even if you think it’s “only a joke”, it is hurtful.
So, please stop, okay?
Karen Jones – a woman who thinks you’re great, and wants you to own it
P.S. And you gals who catch men doing that, encourage them to stop. Then tell them how great they are, instead. Deal?
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