How much room do we have for painful emotions?
“A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity.” — Anonymous
As the adage forthrightly portrays, jealousy is seen as a vile emotion. Jealousy is a naïve characteristic of a seemingly enraged person who is “possessed” by an invisible mad devil and a dull spirit hovering over the man. They say, jealousy is like a mental cancer, once someone gets it, it only grows and the person dies. In other words, they say jealousy has no cure. They say, a jealous person has a sadistic attitude and carries out actions that will undermine the other person of the very thing he is jealous of. They say, the word typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection. They say, jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. They say….. Well lets just take a break here and clear our heads for once. Forget what they say, forget what you have heard and just think what you feel!
Is jealousy really this disgusting a word?
Is a jealous person really this bad that he should be abhorred in such ways that the person feel ostracized? To say that one is jealous of someone has become analogous to “ I hate his success” or “I hate him” or something in this sense. But is this really the case? Does jealousy have to be accompanied with such strong feelings of hate? They say yes! I think otherwise. There are always two sides of a coin, similarly there are two sides of jealousy.
As perceive it, jealousy is good. Jealousy motivates the person to “go all out” in achieving that which he wants. Jealousy brings the best out of a person. It instills in him a burning desire to perform better than others. He gets “possessed” by a sabbatical spirit of energy, dreams, and hard work. Jealousy is not a “bad” term, as so many portray it to be. It’s not “bad” on someone’s part to be jealous. You should not be afraid to be jealous. You should accept that jealousy is a human trait, its in the genes. To be jealous implies that you have a burning desire to be better, to thrive and sharpen the skill set you possess; be it oratory skills, scholastic skills, co-curricular skills or the many other types of skill sets we encounter in our professional lives. Jealousy is a trait inherent in human beings which hone them and maybe, just maybe, has the maxim “survival of the fittest” behind it as a driving force.
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