Why Modern Love Feels So Difficult (And What to Do About it)

Modern events and films have made love seem like it is something that happens easily and that we can fall in love at first sight, and then dating can start afterward.

To me, it seems everyone I know is in a relationship and when they eventually settle down with their partners, getting in touch or having regular contact with them becomes impossible.

Well! I think that’s the way love works, maybe they’ve found someone who completes them and right now, they don’t need friends again.

Modern events and the media tell us that falling in love is the key to happiness. They made us think that the piece we need to pick is our career, life partner, and our interest. And so we keep longing for the perfect one from nowhere to come into our lives and fit perfectly or make us whole.

Due to this expectation from society, and maybe from family members too, we then end up in a regrettable or unhappy relationship, because we wanted them so desperately and earlier.

We believe the society and all that they told us since childhood. We believe that someone needs to complete us and then we focus our energy on finding true love, instead of focusing on what life has provided for us to enjoy.

Thankfully, these days some books and films portray that not being in a relationship is also normal, realistic, and sexy. And that won’t say you are wayward.

These days, more people are telling their stories and revealing their doubts about relationships. More people are bathing ways for the future generation so that they won’t fall into the regular pattern of planning their lives around someone they barely know.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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