Many women suppress their feelings. I, a woman, have done it.
Ladies fake it until they emotionally make it.
When a man is not happy, he doesn’t pretend. You will see articles and comments laced with anger.
Women have let you believe they are happily single. This facade is not authentic. They fume just like single men.
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Watch their actions.
Cher is 72 with a 37-year-old boyfriend. Rumors about women celebrities dating guys are as long as their male counterparts. People are not happy single. But they are also unsatisfied with their relationships. Women picked their struggle.
They chose singleness. Pretend to be happy until someone good enough comes along. Men and women are both social creatures.
If singleness is subpar for men, how is it healthy for women? Why? Is it because ladies accept and welcome sex toys? No. Women fake it better. What do single people, even people in relationships, talk about most? The opposite gender.
If the opposite sex isn’t up for discussion, the group or person made the topic off-limits. Such firm barriers indicate strong feelings on the lack of a relationship.
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No. Woman do not like singleness. Period.
Forget the relationship angle for a second. Have you ever seen us use bathrooms? We prefer company — a man, woman, or non-binary friend. It doesn’t matter.
A woman content creator is about to have her fifth child. Two are teens, and two are toddlers. She has been working her husband down to have another baby for months. She recently announced her pregnancy. Guess what? She is selling the idea of pregnancy to everyone.
The pregnant creator has a friend. She wants her associate to have a baby.
She is not single relationship-wise. She is single pregnant friend-wise.
And this woman would prefer to be around other pregnant women. Ladies love groups, relationships, and partnerships. Even if it is to know someone else is in a relatable situation.
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Right after she said she was happily single.
Want to see something strange?
Watch the switch-up of a woman in a new or healthy relationship. Heck. Any union. She doesn’t smile; she glows. Blushes at the mention of the man’s name. It is more evident if she was the type to say, “I can’t find a good man.” They act like it is the happiest they have been in months.
Many women celebrities stay with known repeat cheaters. These women don’t remain; they fight to be there. Babies. Therapy, gift acceptance, and rants about the other women. They want companionship sometimes at all costs.
They are going to stick by him.
If being single was the best thing since Adam found Eve, women would not subject themselves to such treatment.
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Singleness and happy
Are there happy times? Yes. Are there sad times? Also, yes.
When is it easy to call on the joys of singleness? When the memory of the hurt is fresh. Afterward? It is hard.
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Words don’t turn off biology.
Marissa Baker, 30, and Patty Kulak, 27, splashed headlines in January 2023. “I moved in with my ‘platonic soul mate’ after divorce — you don’t need men.” –NYPost
You can believe and tell yourself you don’t need a man.
Biology has other plans. You will still need companionship.
Here’s some of Baker and Kulak’s story.
“The pair, from Naples, Florida, met at Baker’s birthday party on New Year’s Day 2021 — when she noticed that Kulak seemed down in the dumps. Kulak instantly opened up to Baker, revealing that she and her husband had recently decided to split.
Kulak longed for a strong support system to manage the difficult time, and Baker vowed to be that person.
“She welcomed me with open arms,” Kulak said. “This girl, who only really knew my husband, was the most supportive person I could have ever imagined.”
A few months later, Baker found herself going through her own divorce, and she leaned on Kulak.” — NYPost
It would not surprise me if I checked in with this pair a few years later and one or both of them have partners. Or a few one night stands.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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