What in the world is my hair doing? Where is it going?
Never, in my wildest dreams as a child or teenager imagine myself losing hair. When I was young we all laughed at the men going bald or having ridiculous comb-overs. But, …
In my 20’s my hair started to thin. I didn’t notice it at first. It just seemed that I had less of it. It was still long and still did its purpose.
Although to be quite honest, I don’t know what the purpose of hair is. I mean, it looks good. It’s nice when a member of the opposite sex run their fingers through it. But really, what is the point of hair? We can live without it. Really, should we be judging people over hair lose?
These are the arguments that someone losing their hair will put up.
In my 30’s my hairline started creeping up the front of my scalp. I was able to cover it, by letting my hair grow longer and styling it. Nothing really to worry about. I wasn’t one of those creepy old men, with the silly hair comb-overs. Yet.
I put down the hair lose to stress. I had a stressful job. I had returned to university to study, went through a succession of quick promotions into evermore stressful jobs. I started a family, moved houses and towns several times. Life was busy and stressful, and my hairline changed. No big deal!
Now in my 40’s, I gave up trying to cover it up. Cutting my hair shorter, I have learnt to live with it, and accept myself for who I am. I still have some hair on top. Enough that the barber can cut semi-regularly. Although I now get cheaper haircuts. It doesn’t take long to run the clippers over my head.
What worried me more, was prematurely going grey. Does it really make me look distinguished? Or is my wife just saying nice things to keep me quiet, while I look older and older?
Should I color my hair or not? I have seen peers with their hair remarkably change color overnight, trying to hide it, while we all snigger behind their back. Do I want to be the one laughed at?
Am I secure enough in who I am not to color my hair? I believe so, therefore I haven’t gone down the road of colored hair products, to try and make me look younger. Besides, really there is not enough hair to color.
I wondered once or twice whether I should shave it all off? What would I look like bald? What would people say? The concern about what others think about our appearance should not be the factor that drives us, but it often is.
This is where our self-esteem comes into play. How valuable do we see ourselves? When our self-worth is tied up in our appearance, we are judge ourselves, as well as allowing others to judge us, all by our appearance.
However, there is much more to each of us. We are not tied up in our appearance, because looks fade. Our characters, our beliefs, the actions all speak volume about who we truly are. These are the aspects that we should be developing our self-esteem on.
So, do I allow people to judge me by my hair loss? No, I let my actions and words speak out as to who I truly am.
Believe in yourself. Be yourself. Live life.
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