When it comes to relationships, making sure that theyâre the right person for you attraction-wise, goal-wise, beliefs, and values-wise are important.
But those arenât the only things that matter.
Itâs the money too. Money can make and break a solid relationship because bills can eat away a monthâs paycheck in minutes. Seeing couplesâ relationships fail because of finances is sad.
Bills and finances should be something couples can overcome together, not break up because itâs too much.
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Get a solid understanding of the other personâs bills and expenses.
Before moving out, my girlfriend and I put all our business out on the table to invest accounts, subscriptions, leisure money, unspoken spending habits, car bills, etc.
If the other person is already drowning in their own bills and you havenât moved out yet, then thereâs going to be some trouble.
Be sure to run your analysis of the entire situation to ensure that you can support both of you or how household bills and responsibilities will be divided.
Make sure to understand the expectations of bills and responsibilities before you move out.
If youâre in a situation where one person is the primary breadwinner, then itâs key to understand the responsibilities of both parties.
As the person who doesnât pay for rent or provide as much financially, extra help and support around the apartment go a long way. Little acts of services put both partners on the same field of play, and everyoneâs happier.
Expectations prior to moving out ensure that both needs are met, and the finances are still in check. Without any expectations, you donât know what youâre signing up for, and things can easily go downhill.
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Final Thought
Money is something that rips apart so many relationships, but it doesnât have to. Being more aware and responsible with your money prior to living with your significant other will make living together easier.
Job loss, injuries, or layoffs can happen, but that shouldnât stop anyone from putting in the effort and work necessary to survive financially.
Money scarcity is happening more and more. Thatâs why constant communication, side hustles, and high-paying jobs are essential to a successful relationship.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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