Being a beautiful woman, there are so many things I want to share with men as “do’s and don’t’s” when it comes to talking to someone that really attracts you.
First, you’ve got to understand, being considered “beautiful” by most of society’s standards is a blessing and a curse for a woman. As a beautiful woman, I know we get labeled right away, often as brainless or superficial. We are more likely to be objectified. I also find that both men and women tend to feel intimidated by someone they consider beautiful. Most men find it hard to be natural and comfortable in conversation, and many women feel threatened as if my beauty by itself is going to interfere with their relationships. When a beautiful woman experiences these reactions around her, she sometimes creates a wall where no one can get in.
So there is a lot to consider in approaching a stunning woman that attracts you. Let your compassion from the understanding above light your way to her heart and mind as you approach her.
3 insights every beautiful woman wants you to know
1.- I am a human being, even though I might appear as a magical creature to you, so treat me as a human.
2.- Pedestals are lonely. When you put me way up there, I can’t connect with you.
3.- Beauty doesn’t equate with shallow, so don’t bore me with small talk. Bring your wisdom for me to match.
3 Don’ts
1.- First, almost every man says the same thing : You’re so beautiful …
Let me tell you what that does. It enters one ear and goes straight out the other. As charming as you think that compliment is, there’s no originality and it doesn’t show a genuine appreciation.
2.- Asking incessant questions is a real turn off. It makes you appear weak and insecure. A woman wants to be met and that doesn’t cut it.
3.- Don’t try to impress her to get something from her. Let her impress you instead, without pursuing her or giving your power away.
3 Do’s
1.- Offer a compliment with appreciation. It takes mastery and practice to notice the little details, but if you are able to go beyond the surface and tap into something unique about her you can hit the jackpot. The main ingredient of a successful compliment is that it’s specific, genuine, and includes something about how it makes you feel.
Poor Compliment: You are SO beautiful! You just blow me away.
Good Compliment: That green scarf looks really good on you. It made me notice the rare bright green in your eyes.
2.- Be casually interested in the woman, in a friendly manner, without needing anything. Ask her real questions and let her talk, that way you will find if you have a common ground. Go with genuine curiosity, to find out if you have something in common other than just the physical attraction. Sometimes you will, sometimes you won’t. Be open.
Drop the idea of having something perfect to say, and just make her laugh. In reality, it’s more about how you say something than what you say. So speak with genuine curiosity, and without an agenda more than getting to know her.
Develop your confidence
3.- Confidence comes from within and is the most important pillar of attraction. The key to your success is to be true to yourself and authentic. She knows if you are putting up a facade, which is always a turnoff. So be at your full potential when you approach someone that really impacts you. Prepare. Do the things that bring you to center, and enliven your personal power. That’s the first step. Then when the moment comes to approach her…
My 4 steps to making the best impression on a beautiful woman:
1.- Make eye contact, but don’t stare her down
2,- Ask open questions and be curious, without stalking
3.- Give her your full attention, but stay in your power
4.- Pay her a meaningful, sincere compliment
Always approach a beautiful woman with the intent to make a genuine connection, and remember don’t be attached to how she responds to you. Your success is making the contact. You will never know if you are a match, if you don’t give it a try.
Previously published on Celine Remy
As a sexologist, Celine Remy, CSB, offers a unique hands-on, body-based methodology to crack open her clients through pleasure. She brings a ridiculous amount of joy and laughter in everything she does and wants every man to step into his power with strength and sensitivity and every woman to experience the sex they deserve & crave. She teaches both men and women how to unleash their sexual potential, bring out the best in each other and have mind-blowing sex for hours. You can find more about her here: www.celineremy.com
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She’s just a woman, no different then any other woman. She’ll likely appreciate being treated as one.
If she expects special treatment based upon her beauty, move on. If she has heart and soul, stick around…just as with any other woman.