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When things don’t go your way, it can have a lasting effect on our psyche. Especially, when you’re Type A, liking to be in control. When things don’t go our way, we lend ourselves to distorted thinking. The distorted thinking causes us to self-doubt, depression and lowered self-esteem. Wading through life’s curve-balls involves self-reflection, compassion and a little bit of finesse. When you’re unsure, search within, you will find the answers that you seek. Trust the process. Trust the divine timing of life that is unfolding before you. This type of journey takes one freaking step at a time. It is not a matter how fast you get through it.
Self-Reflection
When things in life don’t look like what you’ve envisioned, invest in some time for reflection. Ask yourself, the question(s): What is this trying to teach me? What am I learning? These questions will spark purpose for you in the midst of whatever you are going through. Stay engaged. Don’t disconnect. Tune in to a higher frequency of vibration. Meditate, see what you’ve been neglecting. Life is desperately trying to get you to pay attention. Wake up. Dig deep during the time where nothing makes sense to you. There’s a lesson in the midst of chaos. Learn the lesson. Set yourself free your negative thinking. Take ownership of your feelings and then release them. You can make a choice so that your emotions don’t dictate how you behave. You can rise above. You can elevate yourself higher.
Compassion
Compassion is critical for this part of your journey. It’s okay to be human and have a self-pity moment. Take as many WTF breaks as you wish. However, don’t stay in that frame of mind. It is toxic to your being when you wallow. Being kind to yourself when life hurts and brings you frustration is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. Bathe in Self-LOVE. Ask yourself: What is the next BEST thing I need to do for myself. Not for anyone else. For YOU. If boundaries are needed during this time so that you can work on yourself, create them. Boundaries will send a message to the people that aren’t meant for this part of your journey to steer clear. Boundaries are also an indicator of you deeply Loving yourself. When you get intentional about how you treat yourself, others will also respond in kind. You teach others how to treat you. What you allow in others and yourself will continue. Disrupt the toxic patterns as you learn the lesson at this time.
Finesse and Hope
In the moments where nothing makes sense and you’re going blindly through life…learn to dance the dance. A Cha-Cha step here and there will give you perspective. Life may not look like what you want it to BUT have faith. Life is giving you a new unique opportunity to embrace an even greater path. Even as you struggle: people, places and things are coming into alignment for your re-birth. When the things that aren’t serving you fall away, bigger and better things are headed straight to you. Lastly, let go and believe!
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