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Attempting to map out life’s entire journey to a level where you’ve painstakingly thought, sought out, and planned every minuscule detail is a sure-fire recipe for an emotional train wreck of epic and disastrous proportions. This is when the feelings of disappointment come raining down heavy on your shattered expectations.
You’ll quickly feel exhausted as storylines begin airing on repeat in your headspace, running misleading portrayals of why you’re an utter and complete failure in your incompetency to manifest your desires in the precise the way you imagined you could. Or because what you wanted somehow didn’t come together in the ways you believed, and now your reality looks much different than what you perceived would be your final point of arrival at some predetermined destination you had in mind.
Well, I hate to be the one who bursts your bubble, but if you haven’t realized it yet already, life is like a dance of spontaneity. Meaning, it’s not one that is choreographically predictable. No matter how hard you try, you cannot expect to ever wrestle life into submissively doing the tango your way. The more you attempt to forcefully take the lead or control life’s flow, the more you’ll wind up usually stubbornly stomping your own toes, feeling the crunch when life decides to give you one of those “OUCH!” moments as a reminder of who’s really in charge.
So, the next time you feel like people, places, situations, or things don’t appear to be unfolding in the way you’d like or churning out the precise results you’d desire, take a cue it’s time to step back in attempt to actually observe what’s really taking place, because nine times out of ten there’s usually an important underlining message in this intense emotional attachment you’re experiencing to the way you believe life is “supposed” to be.
Attachment of meaning to any person or situation, especially whatever it is we’ve already checked off in our minds as unpleasant, is always optional, and a much gentler, compassionate approach whenever the inklings of adverse tensions begin to arise with what’s taking place, is to step back, even it’s momentary, to observe these occurrences from a non-emotional space. Then, when you start to perceive the situation more clearly, you can redirect yourself accordingly.
We only have control over one thing: how uncontrollable events affect us, and we can either meet them with acceptance or decide to create a story depicting tragedy.
You get to choose your story and then life responds to YOU.
Life is never happening TO you. You are not a mere victim of circumstance. You have unlimited personal power to move forward and beyond each temporary obstacle, and once you can summon this strength you will clearly realize that life is ALWAYS happening FOR YOU.
The time has come to turn in your resignation as “Director of the Universe.” Trust that whatever you are seeking is seeking you and everything will happen in perfectly divine timing and in the way it’s precisely meant to be.
Life is never punishing you, it only occasionally redirects you onto a new path in order to level you up into something far greater, beyond the limited constructs of the fixed mind.
Life is a dance with no particular destination. Life’s all about the journey and what you’re experiencing now is the ride.
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