The Collateral of Comparison

Weare all own our own path, our own timeline, our own journey. Yet, we are told we need to hit these certain milestones by a certain age. On top of that, if we don’t hit that milestone when we were supposed to, we are deemed failures. Well, friends, I am here to tell you that is a whole lot of malarkey. You are still an amazing human if you don’t get married. You are still a fantastic person if you don’t have kids. You still have value even if you don’t have a typical 9–5 job.

Your sole purpose on this planet is to share your service with the world. Everyone has a service or skill to provide and improve society. As long as you are trying to fulfill that purpose, keep going. You never know what this universe has in store for you just around the corner. So, if life seems low right now trust the universe. Surrender to fate, things will happen when they are supposed to happen.

The distractions of this surrender to fate are family, friends, and social media. Let me explain. We often feel this pressure to comfort societal norms based on what our inner circle is doing. All your friends are getting engaged and you’re still single, you automatically assume something is wrong with you. No, it’s just not your time yet. You haven’t met someone whose presence is better than your solitude and that’s fine. Keep working on yourself and your goals. Remember you are a whole person, no one completes you, they compliment you.

You want to start your own business but, your family thinks that irresponsible and urges you to get an office job. They compare you to a successful sibling working a 9–5 job. You know you are going to be miserable. Don’t do it. Follow your own intuition, that’s your soul telling you that you are meant for more. Make sure to have a plan and strategize of course, and chase that dream. Why live an unfulfilled life if you don’t have to? Your family will eventually understand once they see how amazing you are doing and how happy you are.

Onsocial media you see all these influencers models doing their thing. Unfortunately, it makes you question your own beauty. Here’s the deal though, social media is a highlight reel. It’s not real life, it’s people using filters to show off their life. Now, not all social media is bad and many accounts are spreading kindness. Here’s what you need to do, complete and unfollow detox. Unfollow or mute any accounts that do not inspire you to improve yourself. If that account makes you feel less about yourself, thank you next. Follow accounts the spread good vibes and self-love.

At your job don’t compare yourself as a first-year to a veteran. That coworker has been there for years and has mastered their craft.You are just starting, give yourself some grace. Ask for help even! Stay in your lane often has a negative connotation to it meaning “Mind your business.” I see that saying as focus on you and what you bring to the table. Don’t worry about what anyone else is doing.

As long as you are completing your projects and doing well, keep moving forward.“Comparison if the thief of joy.” The truest words ever spoken right there by President Theodore Roosevelt. Do what makes you happy, when it makes you happy. This is your life and you should live it how you want. We are all on our own timelines. Some life events may happen faster for people than you. That doesn’t mean it never going to happen for you. Appreciate where you are now in life. Quick check, are you employed? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food to eat? Do you have people who love you and value you? If the answer is yes, you are doing fine. Life will happen when it’s meant to. Doors will open and doors will close when they are supposed to.

Ifyour mind is constantly comparing itself to others it will never see how amazing your life is now. You are doing the best with what you got in these crazy times. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it. Keep doing your thing chicken wing. You are crushing it. Celebrate other’s successes! Someone else’s success does not take away from your own. Instead of comparing we should be sharing. Share advice with others, share love, share kindness, and share the joy. Most importantly, remember you have a purpose, you are here to help in some way. You hold value. Comparison is just the ego getting in the way. Shove that vibe aside! You got this!

“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose.” Bob Goff

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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