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I have the stubbornness of an ox. I hope you feel me on this one. To be honest, being stubborn in this manner of not asking for help when I need it is really a terrible idea. Today I’ve had so many experiences that were so tumultuous for me that I actually asked my tribe for support. I am internally gasping as I write these words. I can’t stress enough the value of finding your tribe and loving them fiercely! I would also encourage you not to be like me- someone who waits until the last minute to ask for help.
I’ve discovered that my reason for procrastination is that I help so many people. That being said I am the last person on my to-do list. This should not be the case. I also sometimes feel as though that because I help so many people that I must maintain this sense of having it all together at all times. I am smashing this notion to hell. Repeat after me: It is okay not to be okay. You don’t have it have life figured out at every point. You don’t have to be the “strong friend” all of the time. Give yourself permission to receive the love, encouragement and empathy that you show others! As a helping professional, I am discovering more and more the power of what happens when you ask for help. I am fully embracing my village. I am so thankful that I have a sounding board, a team of great listeners and huggers just waiting to love on me.
If you don’t express yourself, you forfeit others fully getting to know you and what you want (this goes so much deeper than that). You may feel like a burden and yet the more I’ve opened up I am finding that I have more in common with the people closest to me. I dare you to use twenty seconds of insane courage to just bare your soul with someone that you trust. You deserve to have meaningful conversations. To feel validated, supported, and loved are just a few reasons why we are not meant to do life alone. I am adopting a village mentally from here on. My need for other humans have been so one-sided as a result of me just wanting to be “strong” and fearful of being misunderstood. Give yourself permission for other people to love you just as you are. No conditions. No expectations. Just pure, undiluted love. You are worth loving. You are worth the time and effort it takes for someone to get to know you. We need each other. If you’re used to isolating yourself when you’re going through a tough time, break your box and find someone to talk to. You’re worth someone holding space for you without judgment. My life has been enriched as a result of me being willing to put all of my cards on the table in an unguarded, unexpected moment. There are few greater feelings than pouring out your love on others and having them love you back. Take the leap. Let the love that you are be greater than the fear inside. You got this!
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