Couples Answer: Should You Forgive Cheating?

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Host and comedian Rose Surnow asked people if they think cheating is ever okay. Should you forgive a cheater? Watch to find out!

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– Have you ever been cheated on?
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– Yes.
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I have been cheated on before.
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– With the guy you’re hiking with?
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– Yes.
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– And you forgave him enough to go hiking with him?
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– I forgave him and I also forgave the girl.
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– Wow.
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– I know.
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– Hi, I’m Rose Surnow and this is inside intimacy.
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The show where I ask life’s great questions
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to total street randos.
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Today’s topic is
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cheating.
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Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
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– Can’t hear you?
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– Convenient.
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Have you ever cheated on someone?
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– No.
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– I been the other woman.
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– And how did that feel?
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– At the time I thought it was sexy and risque.
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And now I feel like an asshole.
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– Have you ever cheated on someone?
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– I have.
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– What happened, what was the situation?
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– It was mostly like at the beginning of the relationship
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when things were not serious enough.
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– And did you ever tell him or did you just keep it
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to yourself?
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– I kept it for myself.
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– You know if you feel like it’s really gonna hurt somebody
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to find out that you had some one night whatever
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in the middle of nowhere and it doesn’t matter
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and it never will, then just leave it alone.
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– So if you’re cheating then I think that you know
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it’s obviously dishonest, I think that you should be
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completely open, that’s not right at all.
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– Have you ever cheated on someone?
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– Yes, I have cheated on someone.
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– How do you say, I’m sorry for cheating on you, in Italian.
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– It’s a very like sticky subject to me.
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– It is, which is why I think it’s important
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to talk about, because whether we agree with it to not
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it’s happening all the time,
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so this thing is kind of inevitable.
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Not inevitable for everybody but it’s never gonna go away.
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Then how can we sort of get our heads around it,
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you know?
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– Definitely I think all guys cheat.
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– So how do you trust men,
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if you think they’re all cheaters?
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– I don’t.
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– What was your emotional experience of being cheated on?
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– Heartbroken honestly, you know, you don’t really expect it
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and then it’s almost like what do I do now.
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– I was very sad.
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I listened to Usher’s Confessions for a long time.
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– What was the most awful part about it?
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– Feeling like you had no idea what was going on.
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That you feel like you have a sense of your reality
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and then it turns out that’s very different.
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– Do you think you could ever forgive someone
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who cheated on you?
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– I don’t know, probably not.
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– Do you think if he cheated on you
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and 20 years from now and it was a one time thing
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and you had kids and your money was together
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and you loved him and he still loved you
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and he made a mistake, do you think you could forgive him?
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– I really don’t think I could personally,
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just that’s why my parents got divorced
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and so, – someone cheated
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in your parents?
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– Yeah and so it just kind of like hits a strong note
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in me but I think it’s possible for other people
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but for me personally I don’t think so.
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– Because one of your parents cheated
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and then they got divorced, do you feel more empathetic
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to why people do it, or more judgmental about it?
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– I think more judgemental, honestly.
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– Are there levels of cheating or is it all the same?
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– To me emotional cheating’s way worse
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than physical cheating.
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– I think that emotional cheating is really like
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an okay thing in a way.
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– You do?
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– [Purple Sweater] Yeah.
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I’m sorry I do. – New to me.
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– Tara?
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– It’s new to me.
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– I mean, I don’t know, I think that one’s the one
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that’s in the shade, if it comes to doing actions
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that’s different, if you like have a crush on a coworker
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to motivate you to go to work, go ahead.
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– Do you think that
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watching porn is cheating?
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– I hope not.
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– Me too.
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– What if he’s like following a bunch
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of like Instagram models, is that okay?
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– Oh I don’t care about that.
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– What about flirting really hard with someone
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when they’re not there, like she goes to drink
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with her friends, flirts all night with a guy
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doesn’t tell him, that she has a boyfriend
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and then never sees him again, is that okay?
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– I think that’s dishonest.
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– I think that’s dishonest too, if I ever am attracted
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to someone, I tell him.
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– You do?
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– Yeah, I think that just being honest
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about like when that happens, helps kind of keep
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everything above board.
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– That’s really progressive and mature of you.
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– Thank you.
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– So do you think that there are ever circumstances
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where it could be justified?
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– Definitely not.
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Just break up.
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– Just break up?
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– Just break up.
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– What if you’ve been through so much
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and like you’ve invested time and then
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you end up there and then it’s like, why,
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and then the person is really like, you know, sorry?
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– Just break up.
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– No, we know people who’ve been cheated on
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and they’ve moved on to like really address issues
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and have like a really healthy relationship.
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– Do you think cheating is ever a good thing,
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could it ever be a good thing for relationship?
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– Yes, so to actually show there are problems
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in the relationships itself and that something is missing.
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– Like why do you think people cheat in the first place,
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if they’re happy, what do you think they’re,
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what do you think that is?
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– I think you can be happy and bored.
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– I think that you can love someone
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and be physically attracted to someone else
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and those two feelings don’t negate each other.
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– Do you guys have a celebrity pass?
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– I’m my own celebrity pass.
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– I don’t doubt that John.
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– I would give him a pass for one
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of the Hine sisters for sure.
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– well don’t say that ’cause they literally live
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in this neighborhood.
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– Robin Webster.
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– Honestly, my wife.
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– Oh.
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– Okay, I want to, I’ve wanted to sleep with Halle Berry
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since I was like 14, that’s a crush right, so like.
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– She’s cheating.
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She’s cheating on me right now.
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– What if I told you we have Halle Berry here?
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– Well, Julie I gotta go.
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– Have a nice cheat free relationship.
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– Thank you, that’s the goal.
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– Bye, see you later.
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– You guys are doing great, I believe in you.
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Do you hope that you spend 20 years together?
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– Yeah, I hope so.
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– Same here.
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– Ah you guys are so fucking cute.
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Good luck out there, Melissa, I believe in you.
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You know what, I don’t say this, we’ve interviewed
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a lot of couples today
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but I think you guys are gonna make it.
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– Thank you.
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– Yeah, I think you, Marley, Robin, Jessica,
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I think this family’s gonna make it.
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– That is nice to hear.
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– Why God, why?
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Please don’t cheat on me!
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Sexting is cheating!
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Going to cocktails with your hot coworker is cheating.
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