What Sex Ed Class Forgot to Teach Us

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How many of you had “the talk” with your parents? What did (or didn’t) school teach you about sex and relationships? We took to the streets with host/comedian Rose Surnow to talk with people about sex education.

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Transcript Provided by YouTube:

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– One of my classmates asked if you could kill a girl
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by having too big of a penis.
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– I learned how a baby was born.
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That was super scary.
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– It was more about how to make babies
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instead of the connection part, right.
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– Oh, what you wanna know about is sexual intercourse.
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– The still preach abstinence.
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– In public school?
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– Yeah, because I mean, that is the only way
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to guarantee yourself not getting pregnant
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and not getting an STD.
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– Boring.
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– Straight people sex, that’s the only thing they teach you.
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– Are you queer?
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– Yes.
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– So whatever you learned in school was useless?
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– Yes, I still have no idea what I’m doing.
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– Oh, that’s not what I heard.
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When you got the straight sex talk, did you already know
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that that was not gonna be useful?
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– At the time, I thought it was going to be useful
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and I was like, great, this is it,
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I’m gonna be attracted to a vagina.
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They did nothing for me.
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– Well, you have a lot of extra knowledge
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that in a pinch you can use.
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– Exactly.
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– So your parents did not give you a sex talk?
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– No.
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– No.
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– No, I never got that.
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– Parents didn’t teach me anything.
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Growing up in a very conservative Asian family,
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it was kinda like don’t ask, don’t tell.
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– So how did you figure it out on your own?
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– I used to watch a lot of telenovelas
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so there was a lot of steamy scenes.
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– Just gotta look stuff up if you’re curious really.
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– I live in a generation where we didn’t have like internet.
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It was word of mouth, right,
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from your friends. – You were born
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in the early 1900s?
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– No.
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– My friends introduced me to porn.
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– I got most of my education from fumbling through it
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or pornography, like finding it from friends
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or your dad, actually, most likely, right.
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– Did you take some from your dad?
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– I probably did, yeah.
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– Do you feel like looking at porn
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and watching porn actually helped you in sex?
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– No, I don’t think it helps you.
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It’s because it’s the most of extremes, right,
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it’s not norm, not the best place to get answers.
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– I wasn’t expecting this.
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I haven’t even had coffee yet. – It’s 10 a.m.,
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time to talk about sex.
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When you had sex for the first time,
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what surprised you about it?
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– I think you think it’s gonna be sexier than it is.
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It’s just like more awkward.
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– I guess worse than I expected.
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– Did it hurt? – Yeah.
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– It kinda hurt, actually.
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– I was sleeping over at a guy’s house.
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I had lied to my family
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and he went inside came out and he came.
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I was like, I did it.
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– Wow, it was a one pump?
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Were you like sex is so easy and it’s so fast.
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– Under a full moon on a full moon blanket
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with this guy named Buzzy.
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– Buzzy? – And it was just terrible.
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Do you know Buzzy?
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– Yes, the Ralph Lauren guy.
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– And we had a shed like a storage shed.
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That was like the only place we could be alone, yeah.
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– Sounds really uncomfortable.
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– It was the worst.
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– It was on a waterbed on a Sunday afternoon sober
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and Bone Thugs and Harmony was playing.
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– The fact that you lost your virginity on a waterbed
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to Bone Thugs, like you win.
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– What do you wish you had learned before you had sex?
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– Consents a good one, you can say no to people
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and it’s not embarrassing and it’s not unattractive.
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– Sex is an act that like also I should have had pleasure.
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I wish I had known that.
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– Especially for women, there’s no discussion
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about the kinds of things
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that would actually be pleasurable.
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– I feel like they try to scare you out of sexuality
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and exploring that and every experience I’ve had
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is sort of the, like, precautionary steps,
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never the, like, the joys of it.
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– Deciding what you like and learning to communicate,
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nobody talks about.
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– Gay sex could just be taught in schools as well
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and just how to protect yourself a little bit more.
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I’m as well HIV positive so, like,
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if I woulda been taught more about
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things like that in school,
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maybe I wouldn’t be in the spot that I am.
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– If you had kids, what would you want them to know?
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– Communicate.
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– And don’t meet up with somebody you don’t know.
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– Make sure you care about this person.
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– Make sure that they respect you.
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– Make sure you’re comfortable and you feel safe.
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If you don’t feel safe and comfortable, forget it.
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