Ozy has a post up at Role/Reboot about emotional abuse and also zir dating life! It has been entirely too long since zie got to post about dating people in public. (Twitter doesn’t count.)
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Ozy Frantz is a student at a well-respected Hippie College in the United States. Zie bases most of zir life decisions on Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman, and identifies more closely with Pinkie Pie than is probably necessary. Ozy can be contacted at [email protected] or on Twitter as @ozyfrantz. Writing is presently Ozy's primary means of support, so to tip the blogger, click here.
Never say never about “never” falling into a trap. There are ALWAYS surprises in human relationships just because human are such goofed-up mammals!
That was an awesome post, Ozy. Thanks for sharing; that was very brave. (It’s all just rambling from here on.) Sometimes those primarily online relationships can be the worst ones for emotional abuse. People who use the more cutting,cruel forms of verbal manipulation don’t have to be bothered with the physical cues that should be eliciting sympathy from them. Also, if someone isn’t so smooth in person, they can slip back online and mend the damage they do in their personal appearances. It’s like the ultimate form of ‘but it’s different when we’re alone together.’ I was guilty of a… Read more »
This was really brave of you.
Thank you for writing about the “but I’m a feminist, I know about this stuff, abuse could never happen to me” trap. I fell into that trap too.
I don’t see anywhere in that story that the guy ever got angry with you. At one point you mention that he might get angry with you, but in the context of something that you made sure never to do. Did you write it that way on purpose, to highlight just how unapparent the warning signs were?
That’s a pretty sneaky way to hurt someone: don’t ever directly insult the person, just insult everything that they might consider thinking or doing.
Second what ollie said. Thank you.
Great post, Ozy. Sad and honest and brave and awful and entirely necessary.
Thanks.