We sometimes get into a cool relationship, everything is going smoothly, and we feel that we find the love of our life, and he or she is the perfect match for our perfect goal partner!
And suddenly from nowhere, they disappear with no signs, they stop texting or calling you.
You will probably blame yourself and feel that you are not good enough, and you should put more effort into that relationship.
You doubt yourself and feel guilty about something that you did not wish for. and you keep wondering what’s that thing that you did wrong so that they leave you.
Maybe it’s not you, the reason, maybe :
They found someone new :
It happened, most of the partners leave because they found a new fit, that they consider it as a better fit for them.
It’s an affair because you were in a relationship, your partner cut that trust.
They may get bored with your relationship! That comfort is not appreciated anymore. and they are looking for a more dynamic person.
That shiny smile doesn’t impress him anymore, he found joy outside your couple. He does not enjoy your long talks, cool beach walks, and (something else)
They are done with your drama
One of you may be toxic, you kept ignoring red flags, and it ends up in a disaster.
You are checking on him too often? Saying your opinion without thinking about his feelings? Underestimating him, and not supporting his goals.
Maybe you are always nagging and always sad. Spreading negativity and has low self-esteem. And you allow your partner to manipulate you, so he takes you for granted.
Or maybe he can’t handle your swing mood or your repetitive anger issues! You are always arguing about everything, and maybe you are being violent physically and emotionally.
He is simply done with you.
Lack of maturity
Maybe it was a mistake from the beginning
Rushing to get relationships, without taking the time to analyze if this relationship will work or not will definitely end up in a short term one.
It’s harsh to call it a mistake because you probably put a lot of energy into it. But this is life, sometimes, it’s not meant to be.
Maybe he needs more :
- Attention and affection: maybe he needs more care and contact.
- Positivity: Maybe he needs to be happier the whole day!
- Space, Maybe he just needs more freedom and your relationship is killing his dreams and goals.
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Final thoughts
Keep in your mind that sometimes relationships don’t last forever and the next time someone leaves you without any explanations, at least now you know why. Don’t settle for less, please.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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