An Ultimate Guide of How To Approach Someone

Hey guys! Hope you all are doing well. I know this pandemic has bothered us too much and many of us might have lost the social skills that helped us to mingle. If you can identify yourself as the affected one, here is a perfect guide for you as to how you can kick start your relationships again.

Imagine you are at your workplace or college or school, basically anywhere in public and you want to initiate a conversation with someone, but just like me, you are too conscious of approaching, however, at the same time, you fear dying single (Oh man! I know this feeling. Being an introvert is one of my peculiarities, so I know how hard it is to invariably judge your existence before any other creature can.)

These are some key aspects that will help you break down the whole process and assist you to begin without a hitch. So let’s get started right away.

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Use Your Senses Wisely aka Observe

Now in many cases, it’s how science, specifically biology affects your likings or dislikings (hormones precisely). So just be sure that you are actually being rational rather than spontaneous. Observations are powerful and so is time. You will realize that either you start getting attracted more or end up realizing “Man my hormones just play too hard…” Notice how a person is, the aura he/she creates. Mind it, vibes matter a lot. So this can basically save you from getting discontented later.

Grill, i.e. Inquire

Now by this, I don’t mean to become a creepy stalker and let the world know how desperate you are by directly asking questions. Remember being genuine is the most important affair. I don’t understand why people say it’s important to be candid when you get into a relationship when it should be a component of your personality. Ask people connected to that person about his/her preferences. For example, if you have a coffee shop nearby, ask his/her group about their favorite order or their favorite place for leisure. In this way, you can indirectly find a way to associate yourself with the person. Reminder: Don’t act genuine, be one.

Get In Notice

A casual hi, “Oh can I borrow your pen for a second”, “can you direct me to a nearby coffee shop”, such small acquaintances can work as starters. This way, you can perceive whether you both are actually cozy with each other or if it still has a long way to go. Make sure you both are quite comfortable with each other’s company. (You can sense that in the ambiance.)

The Climax aka The Move

Now is the time! Oh yes! I know it’s the hardest but honey to get something you need to risk something and that something over here is the uncertainty of losing or winning. Make up your mind and again strike with a small conversation. But this time you know how to end it. Well, I’m sorry if I’m sounding creepy here; all that I’m saying is ‘channel your conversation.’ Crack a joke (Be sure it’s not offensive or sexist or misogynistic or dark. Some people have a hard time comprehending it.) and then eventually suggest that exchanging social media handles can be awesome to stay connected and also you’d have a good meme partner. Well, you can give better reasons I’m sure. The other person would not mind it if the comfort level is already achieved.

Be a Textovert For Win-Win

Finally, it’s your call. Whether an introvert or extrovert, you can master this. Start by sharing memes. That aids in generating momentum, followed by the daily schedule, and keep it natural. Don’t force yourself too hard. Remember you can still get rejected so keep that in mind. Having a good conversation is all about expressing yourself well and at the same time giving the other person enough space to be open. When this pandemic ends, build a strong bond in person as that is the finest of all. Till then, use words with utmost accuracy. Go with the flow and ultimately when both are comfortable, exchange numbers and get it started.

A coffee date is a must. It’s like a ritual to build up any relationship.

Organize frequent meets when comfortable, discuss interests and passions and check your frequencies.

Pro tip:- If you are also not into comedy just like me, I have attached a link to get some comic jokes (I just wanted to help you in every possible way). Browse through them, if you find something decent get hold of it. But I would still suggest that personalized jokes are best; even better when on point, relevant to the situation.

PS:-This works for getting started with any relationship/ friendship. Just be yourself from the start and you will surely get the best. All the best mates!

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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