This is my message to you, man who stole my peace.
Sure there was that girl you loved, you spent all of your time with, and you wanted to propose to without her knowing and even without her loving you. But that was it. She loved you, but that love faded. She is not the same as she was when you met her, and you are not the same either. She wants something you cannot give her.
She wants someone else. You can’t be that someone else. Bear that in mind. How about moving on? Look for a different type of woman. Men usually make the mistake of trying to find similar women to their exes because they believe they can only be happy if the new woman has that special something they really want. That’s not productive. Try not to look for someone who makes the same mistakes as your ex. The breakup will be the same and for similar reasons. You won’t be getting any closer to your goal of being treasured for who you really are.
Seems like nobody’s good enough anymore. Nobody looks like her. Nobody talks like her. Nobody feels like her. But guess what? That’s not true. It’s you who can’t accept someone else into your life. It’s you who doesn’t want to start again. Sure, it can be tiring to tell the story of your life again and again or to walk the same roads with someone else as you re-live past memories, but we all have to start anew at some point in our lives. That’s the key to success. Stop trying to find the girl who looks just like her. Actively look for the one who can make you forget her.
How can you still love someone when you see that they don’t love you back? How can you still hold onto her when you saw how she left you? Just think about yourself for once. Wish for your happiness next to the right person. Be egotistical every once in a while. Be egotistical in wanting to center yourself around a new person, in wanting to make someone new happier than she ever was, in wanting to make the new girl the only one. And no, that right person is not your ex.
Stop trying to fix old relationships.
Second chances rarely work because the truth is that people do not change no matter how much you wish and pray for that to happen.