Another point in the article is that many people have this idea that parenthood is not only something that they want but that’s the only recipe for happiness and fulfillment.
For people who desire to be parents, they can have happiness and fulfillment but it’s not the only recipe. That’s the misleading part.
She also states that analysis of hundreds of studies has been demonstrated that having children negatively affects relationship satisfaction.
If the person knew that they didn’t want to be a parent, you can’t present the argument that “no one really knows because people change their mind.”
While it’s true that some people change their mind, some people know at an early age what they want and what they don’t want ever. Since I was 13, I was saying that I didn’t want any kids. Now, switch those numbers around. I’m 31 and still feel the same way.
So, some people are quite certain of what they want in their future, while other people are not.
I don’t doubt the study’s findings that having children can negatively affect relationship satisfaction when a person’s intention was not to have kids.
Either, they had kids due to an unplanned pregnancy or fell victim to peer pressure from their friends or family.
If you want to reach the finish line and you don’t see kids in that equation, then you shouldn’t have kids. It’s quite simple!
If you already have kids, there are ways that you can pivot to make the most of the situation. If they’re still young, you can hopefully sell them on your new lifestyle. They’ll probably be more open to it.
As they become older, they’re likely to be more resistant because they have their friends and current lifestyle. There are exceptions but that’s generally the case.
I’m not discouraging parenthood. Although, like this article has stated, it’s not for everybody and you shouldn’t go into parenthood just to be socially accepted.
Life is temporal and eighteen years of your life is a significant amount of time.
What if you only live to 50 years old? 50 – 18 = 32. That leaves only 32 years of adulthood (not including the time of parenthood).
Many people have this idea that we’re going to live to the average age of life expectancy, according to our gender. For men, it’s about 78 years old and women it’s about 81 years old.
I’m sure you have known several people in your life that have died before that, whether it’s 60, 50, or even younger. That’s something I want you to keep in mind.
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