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When it comes to relationships there are 4 C’s that make for a happy, loving and meaningful romantic relationship. If for any reason you are in a relationship not comprised of these four characteristics, this article will help you to identify and make the necessary changes so that you can get the love you deserve.
Commitment
In a healthy relationship, you are committed to your partner and they are committed to you. You both agree to do the best you can for each other to fulfill your partners wants, needs and requirements to the best of your ability. Since relationships are not a cookie-cutter format, the level of commitment each person gives will be dependent on your own personal desires. Under no certain terms is a committed relationship something that you assume, it is rather communicated willingly and respectfully. A committed relationship might include exclusivity, however more than anything it includes a mutual agreement between two people that have decided to do what it takes to commit to one another.
If you’re looking for a commitment in your relationship, speak to your partner and be open about your expectations. Not every commitment is the same, therefore if you don’t spell out what you want, you might wind up with an empty promise that does not fulfill your wants, needs or requirements.
Conduct
How you and your partner conduct yourselves within and outside of the relationship says a great deal about your relationship. For starters, in a healthy relationship, if you treat your partner with love, respect, and kindness when they are around or not around, you are demonstrating good conduct within your relationship.
Couples that yell, curse, or physically assault their partners are not in a healthy relationship. Instead, there has to be a mutual respect of SELF and your partner so that each of you conducts yourself a manner that is beneficial to you and your partner.
People in healthy relationships don’t scream at each other, they discuss thing civilly. And, no matter how intense the discussions may be, in a healthy relationship you don’t yell, assault or verbally disrespect your partner.
Compatibility
In a loving healthy relationship, you and your partner are compatible. This means you get along with one another and that your core values and beliefs are in alignment with one another. This is not the same thing as having things in common, such as hobbies or skills, but more about your inward belief systems and views about life.
This does not mean couples that are compatible don’t argue or fight because they do. However, the glue that keeps them together runs deep. For instance, two compatible individuals might not agree on politics, but they agree on how to raise their children. At the same time, compatible people might not agree on movie nights, but they have the same spiritual practices.
Compatibility is a necessity in a relationship, and while opposites do attract, incompatible people don’t mesh, at least not for long.
Consideration
When you’re in a healthy relationship you not only consider yourself, but you also consider your partner. That means you think about the things your partner wants, needs and requires, and you do what you can to add value to their life. And, while it is your partners and your job to fill your own cup of happy, in a healthy relationship each person makes a conscious contribution to partake in the other persons happiness. This means that you consider the person you’re committed to.
Two people in a relationship show consideration for one another by listening to each other. And, they don’t just wait their turn to speak; they listen to their partner because they want to consider what is being said. Also, if you’re used to having things your way most of the time, considering changing things up by offering your partner things they might want.
To conclude, it’s quite easy to recognize a healthy relationship without going through the 4 C’s by using these easy quick tips below:
1. A healthy relationship makes you feel good about yourself and at the same time, it makes your partner feel good about them.
2. In a healthy relationship, no one is walking around on eggshells, and both partners within the relationship have a healthy love and respect of self and for their partners.
3. When it comes to decision-making both parties share the responsibility. Neither partner controls the other, instead, both parties are open to agree or disagree.
4. You consider each other not just because you love each other, but also because you respect one another. You trust one another and if you recognize any jealous behavior you are free to speak freely and set boundaries that are best for you and your relationship.
5. You value one another’s space and individuality. You don’t expect them to become someone they’re not because you love and respect them for who they are. You respect their boundaries and you
To conclude: If you’re in a relationship and you fall short of any of these four characteristics, then it might be time to talk to your partner about what you can both do to either change that or go your own separate ways. On the other hand, it might be that you have to work on the relationship you have with yourself, in order to fulfill the relationship you have with others.
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This story has been republished to Medium.
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