Orin J. Hahn shares a peek inside the thought process of being a feeling man, and doesn’t think he’s alone.
Often I hear women talk about men and how we’re not “open,” or “in touch” with our emotions, or just that we are simply not expressive. And there’s something I’d like to share on what’s behind that.
I was just sitting wrapping up a conference call, enjoying my favorite cafe and feeling so through-and-through good, so simply jazzed by the people, the moments, the threads. The flirtations, the play, the inquiry. The whole damn wonderful pulse of life just pouring through me, that I was just humming along in pretty much ecstasy.
And it was wonderful. Till my mind realized what was going on.
As soon as it clicked I watched my thoughts start kicking in.
Why is it happening? Who caused it? Am I looking too sappy, too aroused? Should I file it away for later for the miss? Will that bug her? Is it from someone else? Uh oh, did I break a promise?
All that, in a second. And it disappeared. The only possible reason I even caught it is I’ve been training, exploring and striving in so many ways, for so many years to take back simple permission. Permission from expectations, old habits, or just well meaning loved ones, to simply be a human before being anything else. For anyone else. To start from home.
So that, if you’ve ever wondered what it is that men feel—that is what I, as a man, feels today. And I believe I’m not the only one.
And patience is the answer. To both the possessor of the thoughts and those who want to better know them.
What are your thoughts? I’d love to know, comment below or tweet at me.
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