About Harris O'Malley

Harris O'Malley provides geek dating advice at his blog Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as writing the occasional guest review for Spill.com and appearing on the podcast The League of Extremely Ordinary Gentlemen. He can be found dispensing snark and advice on Facebook and Twitter (@DrNerdLove.)

Dr. NerdLove is not really a doctor.

How To Be An Amazing Kisser


Dr. NerdLove offers a primer on how to ace one of the most important moments in a new relationship.

How To Touch Her


Learning how to flirt and touch a woman in a way that is both consensual and sexy is a fine art. Dr. NerdLove gives guys a primer.

Being Socially Awkward Is Not An Excuse

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Dr. NerdLove explains that it’s not bad to be socially awkward, but it IS bad to refuse to respect people’s boundaries and use social awkwardness as an excuse.

Yes, You CAN Ace the ‘Defining the Relationship’ Talk

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Dr. NerdLove helps guys with the dreaded DTR talk, and explains it’s only dreaded because most guys haven’t learned how to do it correctly.

5 Ways To Have An Amazing Relationship


Now that you’ve found someone you really like, and who likes you back, how will you make it last?

Finding True Confidence


We all know that confidence is sexy, but you can’t just manufacture it… Or can you? Harris O’Malley breaks it down.

How To Get Women To Approach You


There are a lot of reasons why some women don’t approach men, but there may be things you can do to increase your odds of being the one getting the attention.

Why Women Don’t Approach


A lot of guys lament the fact that they have to be the ones to initiate with women… Dr. NerdLove examines whether that’s true, and why.

The Economics of Sex


Dr. NerdLove rages against the notion that women are the idea that women are only worth the sex they aren’t giving away.

5 Secrets To Make People Like You

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Harris O’Malley insists that it’s easier than you think to become one of those guys who can meet and comfortably chat up new people.

Defining a Modern Masculinity


Dr. NerdLove admits that a lot of the biggest issues in dating are caught up in traditional gender roles, with man as aggressor and female as receiver.

How to Hack OKCupid


Even if you’re not a mathematical genius, you can still hack your own OKCupid to help you find love faster and easier. Dr. NerdLove explains how.

5 Ways to Bring the Spark Back to Your Relationship

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Dr. NerdLove offers some unexpected tips and tools for bringing excitement back to your long-term love.

Do Looks Matter?

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Dr. NerdLove examines the notion that you have to look like Brad Pitt for women to like you.

What You Need to Learn From the Movie ‘Her’

Although I’m dreading the upcoming deluge of ironic mustaches on twee sadboys.

Harris O’Malley just saw “Her”, and thinks there’s a lot guys can learn about love and relationships from this film about a man who falls in love with his operating system.

The Trouble With Online Dating

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Online dating is a great way to meet new people, but Dr. NerdLove sees a few problems with finding real love this way.