About Harris O'Malley

Harris O'Malley provides geek dating advice at his blog Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as writing the occasional guest review for Spill.com and appearing on the podcast The League of Extremely Ordinary Gentlemen. He can be found dispensing snark and advice on Facebook and Twitter (@DrNerdLove.)

Dr. NerdLove is not really a doctor.

Sex For Beginners: A Tutorial

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Dr. NerdLove offers a man-to-man tutorial on how to not just get the job done, but how to get it done well.

How To Be a Gentleman and Have Great Sex – Part Two

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Dr. NerdLove’s guide to getting laid without being a jerk, part 2.

Yes, You Can Be a Gentleman and Have Great Sex – Part One

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Dr. NerdLove explains how guys are taught that dating is antagonistic, marked by guys who want tons of sex and women who are supposed to be gatekeepers. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

What’s Wrong With “Taking the Red Pill”

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Harris O’Malley explains that the appeal of the Red Pill ethos is simple; it’s all about taking someone who feels they have little power and convincing them that they have the only way to get power.

Getting Space In A Relationship

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One of the things that people often don’t understand about relationships is that everybody needs their space at one point or another.

Where Do You Get Your Validation?

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Where and how you get your validation can be a huge influence in how you interact with the people around you.

Dump Your Toxic Friends

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We spend a lot of time examining and looking out for toxic relationships but give very little consideration to the possibility that we have toxic friends.

Why Sexual Compatibility Matters to Long-Term Love

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So you and your new fling have heat… but do you have the type of compatibility that supports a lasting relationship? Dr. NerdLove explains.

How to Maintain a Casual (Romantic) Relationship

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You may not be interested in commitment, and that’s totally fine. Dr. NerdLove explains how you can maintain a respectful casual relationship.

Can You Be An Ethical Pickup Artist?

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Yes, meeting women can be hard. But the coerciveness of the nature of pick up artist is all wrong.

Five Awesome First Dates

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First dates can be rough, but Dr. Nerdlove has a few ideas that might help break the ice.

How to Stop Fighting (and Start Making Up)

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Dr. NerdLove comes clean about every relationship’s dirty little secret.

What I Wish I Knew Before My First Relationship

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The best part of never having had a girlfriend is that you get to start from the beginning, with a few bits of wisdom from Dr. NerdLove to help you along.

The Myth of What Women Want

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Dr. NerdLove debunks every myth you’ve ever read about what women want, and proposes a simple and effective alternative.

Recovering From Relationship Failure

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Dr. NerdLove reminds guys that even if your relationship fails, YOU are not a failure.

5 Rules To Make Dating Easier On Yourself

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Dr. Nerdlove simplifies the scary process of dating in five simple tips.