Frankly there’re few dating strategies that make me twitch uncontrollably more than “playing hard to get”.
Take a deep breath and just let this one go. And if you’re feeling a little insecure, ask your boyfriend for a little sweetness and reassurance.
Trust me when I tell you this: You need to let this go.
While being cautious and maintaining good security practices is a solid idea, I think the threat she presents is more emotional than physical.
I think pretty much everything you’re dealing with is spiraling out of your being a little socially unaware and you’re drawing all the wrong conclusions from… well, damn near everything.
You’re probably not going to likes this advice. But the fact that P has a good relationship with his ex is a good thing.
This wasn’t just a case of “whoops, I slipped”—it was a series of steps that you actively participated in.
There’s a reason he’s not talking to you. It lets him keep his fantasy that if he just crushes at you hard enough, he’ll eventually reach a tipping point where you’re swayed by just how much he “loves” you, without his having to do anything like “risk rejection” or “have qualities that would make you interested in dating him.”
When we break up with someone, we ultimately owe them three things. We owe them respect, we owe them clarity and we owe them as little unnecessary pain as possible.
Freaking out at someone is a great way to make them decide that they’d be better off keeping their diagnosis as a deep, dark and horrific secret instead of learning to accept it as a simple fact about who they are.
A wise man once said: It’s possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That’s life.
There’s something uniquely frustrating when everything in your life is great… but you’re miserable and depressed anyway.
Wait, are you asking if you should ditch your girlfriend for the vaguer-than-vague possibility that this woman might be interested with you?
I don’t think you have a toxic relationship. What I think you have is a deeply dysfunctional relationship where everyone is miserable and nobody seems to be willing to take any steps to fix things.
So I’m not gonna lie: I hate “we were on a break” with the firey passion of a thousand suns.
He doesn’t come across as being misogynistic at all, but I’m worried that if I continue going down this route and become invested, I may discover too late that’s he holds really toxic beliefs about women.