On Race

Race is difficult to talk about. And that’s exactly why we keep talking about it. Here are some of our best posts on the subject.

We’ve heard it said: “You can’t even have a conversation about race in this country without being called racist.”

Damned if that will stop us from trying.

We’re obviously not afraid to tackle the tough subjects of issues relevant to men. We had an in-depth, sometimes ‘vehement’ discussion of pornography going on for weeks. We like to come at topics of importance from multiple angles—not to moralize, not to tell you what’s good – but to help figure it out together, as our community shares insights through comments, reactions posts, across social media and throughout the  web universe.

So we’ve asked several people to give us their views on men and race. We don’t think you’ll find them racist. We think you’ll find them fascinating.

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In “White Boy in a Black Land” Tom Matlack travels to Kenya and confronts his own views on race both here and abroad. “Am I a racist? I hope not. But if I’m not a racist and you’re not and neither is anyone else this country, how can we collectively end up with a million black men in prison and such stark and persistent racial differences in terms of education, wealth, and life expectancy?”

Jackie Summers writes a reaction piece, “Black Boy in a White Land” that starts out, “I had no idea I was black, until my first day of first grade.” Once Jackie realized that the color of his skin had meaning, he found there was an elephant in the room everywhere he went.

We asked Steve Locke to write on race and he refused. He had the courtesy of telling us, “Why I Don’t Want to Talk About Race.” So we printed his email.

Damon Young, in “Eating While Black”, talks about a peculiar type of “race neurosis” that makes it difficult to see actions as separate from the color of his skin. An example—“It makes you hesitate to help an elderly woman struggling with her bags at the supermarket because you’re aware that she might think you’re trying to rob her.”

Jack Varnell recites his poem, “Facing Mecca,” about race, fried Velveeta sandwiches, riots and shades of grey.

In “Beautiful on All Sides,” Tomas Monitz writes about raising biracial children. “The privilege of being white in the U.S. is that you don’t have to see race. But for a growing majority of people, ethnicity is fluid; it’s piecemeal, chosen, reclaimed, refused, relearned.”

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We would like nothing better than to have all of  you join in the conversation and give this topic the importance it deserves.

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More articles On Race:

Black Boy in a White Land

‘Why I Don’t Want to Talk About Race’

Eating While Black

Facing Mecca

The Most Racist Thing That Ever Happened

Beautiful on All Sides

Race is Always a Parenting Issue

 Poetry In Motion: A Story of Hardship and Hope in Crow Country, Montana

How Travel Made Me Confront White Privilege

I Prefer My Racism Straight Up, Thank You.

Whiteness Is Not the Absence of Racial Identity Any More Than Maleness Is the Absence of Gender Identity

I Ain’t No Whiteboy: A Reflection on Hip-Hop, Misogyny, and Racial Identity

Why We Need to Talk About Race

How Basketball Helped Me Realize I’m Not White

I Talk About Race Because I Don’t Know How Not To

Internalized Racism

How The Rules of Racism Are Different for Asian Americans

The Proper Way to Be Black

I Will Not Raise A Child Blind to Race

Why Does Tonto Have That Bird on His Head? Racism in the New ‘Lone Ranger’

The Luxury of Invisible Privilege

No, We Are Not “Making It About Race”: An Interview With Samuel James

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Comments

  1. Kofi Blankson Ocansey says:

    This is brilliant. Discussions about race – that involved why one wasn’t normal or unhappy or was unhappy – were part of the reason why I came back to Africa. Not that one can fully escape it here either.

    Well done, to the author.

  2. Matthew Salesses says:

    These are good pieces, but it’s disappointing that race seems represented here as only black and white.

    • Couldn’t agree more. Let’s open this discussion and really start some conversation. We need to figure out there’s ONE race–human–BEFORE THE DAMN ALIENS ARRIVE.

      JFB

    • I think that is not true. Several of the books I mentioned deal with issues of other ethnic groups, Takaki especially deals with immigrants from Asia and the southern Americas. Also, Ignatiev deals specifically with the Irish, who BECAME white over time. And Churchill and Vander Wall talk extensively about the Native American experience.

  3. Cosign on what Matthew said–thanks for starting this conversation, but a conversation about race in American has to go beyond the black/white paradigm. (And to echo what Jackie noted in his accounting of black contributors on the site, how many regular contributors beyond Matthew are Asian American?)

  4. Had this same thought (as Matthew & Jason) – Black, White, yes, but also Asian, Hispanic/Latina/o, and those people so close to my own heart, Indians… Who here can write about them? I would love to read that. Thank you!

  5. Geneticist Spencer Wells talks about how his Genographic Project will use shared DNA to figure out how we are — in all our diversity — truly connected. http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8866568816093486330#docid=-6255223346369443745

    Understanding Race: Are We So Different? A new look at RACE through three lenses: History, Human Variation and Lived Experience http://www.understandingrace.org/home.html

    “Journey of Man” http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8866568816093486330#

    The Incredible Human Journey : Out Of Africa http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eQJ54qnBVNg

    Dr. Joel Freeman: African American History http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mc0hv3MSKqs&feature=related

    Michael Moore – The Making Of America http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGa13QH6rQY

    “Race/Racism: The Power of an Illusion” (The lies people believed/believe) http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8150655206168545333#

    “Race And Intelligence” (Intelligence comes from how/where you were raised, NOT from the color of your skin.) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5qo75RupBA

    Tim Wise – “The Pathology of White Privilege”
    Wise provides a non-confrontational explanation of white privilege and the damage it does not only to people of color but to white people as well. http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=3812249801848706206#

    The Modern Racist Paradigm http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-9142171923095749295#

    “The Real Eve” http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3157218070566119649#

    “Brainwashed” by, Tom Burrell http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BeV2qzRXUCo

    Dr. Joy DeGruy: 2011 Bulding Bridges – Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0G-2uwRnyO8

    “Slavery and the Making of America” http://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8#q=slavery+and+the+making+of+america&hl=en&rlz=1R2SNCA_enUS341&tbs=dur:l,srcf:H4sIAAAAAAAAAKvMLy0pTUrVS87PVdNOz89Pz4Gwk3Iy87LLMlPAnGTd4oLEPCAvNV8vvyhdDSSXXFQJlkvLL0rUKylTAwDT6mnNSQAAAA&tbm=vid&prmd=ivnsb&source=lnt&sa=X&ei=80EjTp-nJ9DUgAfE3MC-Cw&ved=0CCYQpwUoAg&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.&fp=d94102b63569378f&biw=1024&bih=443

    “ Guns, Germs, & Steel” 1/3 http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8866568816093486330#docid=-896467611526190749

    The Destruction of Black Civilization – Dr. Chancellor Williams Part 1 of 3 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bY88N6q8Ru8&feature=related

    “Black Athena” – The African Origin of the Modern Greeks http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-7131659833327794272#

    Return to Glory – Part 1 of 5 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KnifWYLrgQ&feature=related

    When We Ruled – Part 1 of 8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kN9lMgHG_-8

    Bill Cosby – Black History – Lost, Stolen or Strayed Part 1
    http://www.youtube.com/user/brothahaneef#p/c/2985D604658C55DC/0/niqpkvyYMEY

    8 Political Myths About Blacks That You Should Not Believe http://atlantapost.com/2011/07/14/8-political-lies-about-blacks-that-you-shouldn%e2%80%99t-believe/

    Dr. John Henry Clarke – A Great and Mighty Walk http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5784756819358533059#

    Raw Info Conference – Black History 101- Dr. Erin Moore http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OlpF6ym86w8

    HOW RACIST ARE YOU? (part 1) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAv8JA_9uKI

    Richard Dawkins Explaining Why We Are All Africans http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7diwQ5dHZ0U

    “How Civilizations Began” 1/3 http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8866568816093486330#docid=-7994724036390000631

    “First contact with a Tribe“ http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8866568816093486330#docid=1773811509036338761

    “What makes us Human” – Part 1 – “Big Heads”
    http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8866568816093486330#docid=-6228357441125851602

  6. One more comment – though I’m excited to keep reading more articles in the “on race” series, I do hope to read one about racial pride in being White, because that is not and should not inherently be a bad thing. Just like not every Black person is an “African-American” (there are Hatian-Americans, Brazilian-Americans, Jamaican-Americans, and then, you know, those people who are Black who aren’t hyphen-American anything), there are all types of Whites who have complex, important, and even radical racial identities of our own.

    • I think that there is some confusion about ethnicity, which is related to culture and history and family, and race, which is about social position. I am all for ethnicity and culture. I have to say though, that asking the “other” to tell you about their ethnic life is really problematic. There’s a great essay by James Baldwin that explains that “nobody was white before they came to America.” It was in ESSENCE magazine back in 1984. A link http://www.cwsworkshop.org/pdfs/CARC/Family_Herstories/2_On_Being_White.PDF.

      • No one was called white in Europe because everyone there is white and people are differentiated on ethnicity (German, English, French, etc.) but in America they are white because they have merged into a single ethnicity.

    • I think we’re already there. Pride in whiteness is a default. It’s so celebrated that we all think it’s normal. It’s so pervasive that it’s considered standard. Most of the “white” people I know speak pridefully of their family name history, and can tell you most of their ancestor’s origins. They speak dreamily of one day visiting Europe to see where their family originated, or smugly announce that have already been there.

      Most Americans assume on meeting me that I’m white, but I’m mixed. I make it a point to take pride in each of my ancestral lines.

      • Sorry, but pride in whiteness is not near anything like a default. If it were, you could have “white pride” rallies without anyone blinking an eye. American whites going to Europe to “discover their roots” are a small minority, more often the case it’s blacks who would take that trip to Africa in a heartbeat given the chance. What’s more unquestioned in America today is the belief that blacks should have pride when in fact their conduct does not merit their laughably high self-esteem.

        • If we’re going to judge who is allowed to have racial pride based on the conduct of members of their race, white people probably come dead last in the line for a pride parade. Which I think is kind of the point.

  7. I think this is an important discussion – that is doomed to failure. When we talk about race, we talk from a particular perspective that seems to automatically disquailify our thoughts in someone’s mind. I served for several years on a Human Relations Commission in my city, and we tried to initiate a dialogue between different racial segments of the population. We formed small groups around the city (a city of 1 million +/- people). What happened, in most groups, was that races were talking “at” each other rather than “with” each other, and no one really heard a different perspective. Ultimately, until we embrace the reality that race does, in part, define each of us, and that all of us, at some level, are affected by racism, then we will not have a truly honest dialogue – as important as that dialogue may be. And I, for one, think it’s a critcally important dialogue.

    • I disagree; keep trying until you succeed. I have had many successful discussions about race. I’ve learned a lot about active listening over the years; it’s an important skill for any conversation.

  8. The Trials and Triumphs of a
    Joyful Black Man in America

    “As a man amongst men, I create a world of
    Love and understanding by loving myself
    and understanding others.
    Michael “Powerful Tiger” Taylor
    Land of My Grandfathers July 2002

    Growing up as a young black male in the inner-city projects of Corpus Christi Texas I
    was acutely aware that being “black” somehow made me different. As I watched
    television and looked through magazines and books I realized that the people I perceived
    to have all of the wealth were white people. When I asked my mom the reason for this
    her response was that there were lots of blacks that were wealthy, but the white people
    did not want to show that on television. When asked why not, she responded by saying
    that this was the way that white people could control the minds of black people and keep
    them from attaining wealth. Even as a child, there was something about that comment
    that I did not agree with. I wanted to understand how the mind worked and most of all I
    wanted to understand how white people could control the minds of black people?
    As I progressed through elementary school I remember the tension and fear I felt as I
    interacted with white kids in my class. At the age of nine I had my first experience of
    racism when a white female classmate approached me after a spelling test. In this class
    the person who scored an A on a test would receive a gold star, which was then placed on
    a poster board in plain view for all the students to see. It just so happened that I had the
    most gold stars of anyone in the class and the teacher would always encourage me to do
    well and to be comfortable being at the top of the class intellectually and academically.
    After this particular test the white female classmate came up to me and said, “my mom
    says that all niggers are dumb and stupid and even though you may have more stars than I
    do I am still smarter than you”. I stood there in shock and disbelief and was unable to
    respond. Even though I had the evidence to refute her comments, as a nine year old the
    pain of her words cut me like a knife. I felt angry yet ashamed because this was not the
    first time I had heard those words. But this was the first time that I had heard them
    targeted directly at me by one of my peers.

    My most painful experience of blatant racism occurred when I was seventeen. I was in
    high school and I met and fell in love with my high school sweetheart. She was a
    wonderful supportive caring person that incidentally happened to be white. When we
    met, she was somewhat of a wild child. She came from a pretty wealthy family yet hated
    her father and was into drugs and rebellion. She was a C and D student that liked to skip
    school and hang out at the beach with her friends. After going out with her for a while I
    convinced her to turn her life around and give up the skipping school and abusing drugs.
    She changed her attitude and became an A and B student. We were extremely close and
    shared that high school infatuated kind of love that feels so deep that it stays with you
    for a lifetime. After going out with her for over a year her father found out that we were
    dating. One night I got a phone call from him and it was obvious that he was not happy.
    As he began speaking I knew that I needed to keep my cool and not disrespect him. I
    listened to his objections and gave him an opportunity to get everything off of his chest.
    When he finished, I made the mistake of telling him that he did not have the right to
    decide whom his daughter should date. I tried to convince him that I had been a good
    influence on his daughter and that he should be happy that she was doing so well. My
    hope was that I could get him to understand that I was a good guy that was actually good
    for his daughter. Of course he could not hear a word I was saying. He was adamant about
    the fact that he knew what was best for his daughter and I was just some young punk
    trying to take advantage of his little girl. After screaming his disapproval of our
    relationship for several minutes he then said something that completely caught me off
    guard. Although I knew he was angry I did not expect to hear these words, “There is no
    way that I will allow my daughter to date a nigger. I will kill you before I let that
    happen”. Although the words were painful, it was the venomous feeling of anger and
    hatred that came through the phone that ripped out my heart. Even today almost thirty
    years later I can still feel the hatred in his words. His anger came from deep within his
    soul and it was apparent that his anger wasn’t just about me but about all black people.
    As I sat there in disbelief I immediately went numb. A part of me wanted to defend
    myself and curse at him and retaliate in some way. My initial feeling was anger, which I
    quickly subdued to avoid getting into a shouting match. Another part of me was
    extremely afraid because I did not know whether or not he would actually attempt to take
    my life. But the feeling I remember most after his comment was sadness. I remember a
    sinking feeling in my gut that was the result of being invalidated as a human being. I
    knew that he viewed me as less than a man and in his mind I was not good enough for his
    daughter simply because I was black. It was dehumanizing and demoralizing.
    How could this man hate me so much and not know anything about me? How could he
    pass judgment on me without ever seeing me or speaking to me? Why could he not see
    the positive influence I had had on his daughter? Why was I not allowed the opportunity
    to meet with him and talk to him so that he could see how much I really cared about his
    daughter and that my intentions were to simply love and support her? So many questions
    so few answers.
    I share these three true personal stories because as a black man I realize that my
    experiences are really just a microcosm of the challenges facing black men even today. I
    personally believe that our media still does an irresponsible job of portraying black
    people in general. The media generated perception is that being black is synonymous
    with being poor, uneducated, unmotivated and somehow a burden on society. Although I
    do not believe that the media can control how black people think, I am aware of the
    power that the media does have on a person’s perception. Since a person’s perception is
    their reality, the media definitely has an influence on people’s minds.
    It is my fervent belief that people in general are not born racist. Hatred is not a part of a
    person’s genetic make up. Racism is something that is learned and people usually learn
    from the environments in which they are raised. Unfortunately there are still some
    parents that teach their children that black people are inferior as human beings and sadly enough
    some black people have accepted this as true.
    As a black man, I realize that people are going to judge me and have preconceived ideas
    about who I am. I understand that no matter what I do the stereotypes of black men will
    precede me and somehow I will have to prove myself over and over again. I know that
    people will be afraid of me, will think less of me and put the label of “black” man on me
    no matter what I do.
    So as a black man what can I do? How do I deal with the multiplicity of challenges that I
    face on a daily basis? Do I throw my hands up in defeat and give up? Do I accept the
    stereotypes and become just another black male statistic thrown into the ever-increasing
    prison population? Do I succumb to the pressure and lose my identity and try to become
    someone that I’m not?

    In order for me to deal with the aforementioned challenges, I choose to first and foremost
    see myself as a man, not just a black man. If I see the world only through the lens of a
    black man I limit my perception of the world. When I let go of my attachment to being
    black first, I open the door to infinite possibilities for myself as a human being. This is
    not a denial of my ethnicity it is simply an affirmation of my true potential and my
    humanity. This awareness gives me an entirely new perspective on the world.
    With this perspective I can honestly say that I absolutely love being a black man. I have
    come to this conclusion as a result of the past fifteen years of doing my emotional work
    and removing my shadows. I am now completely comfortable with who I am as a human
    being and I recognize that I am a man who happens to be black. I am proud of my racial
    heritage but the true source of my power transcends the color of my skin.
    When I view the world from this perspective I begin to recognize that although there is
    ignorance and hatred in the world, racism in and of itself is actually an over-used word in
    our society that keeps us separate and in denial of our oneness. This does not excuse
    injustice and oppression for people of color it simply acknowledges that racism is a disease
    of the mind. In objective scientific terms it isn’t real. It is a man made creation that
    exists only in our minds.

    As I reflect over my personal mission statement:
    “As a man amongst men, I create a world of Love and understanding by loving myself and understanding others.”

    I fully grasp the implications of what these words mean to me. By loving myself and
    removing any blocks to my awareness, I am able to understand others without judgment.
    This allows me to constantly be in the moment without being attached to things that have
    happened to me in the past. By healing my anger and forgiving those who have hurt me I
    can be fully present to people in my life. Therefore I do not think in over generalized
    statements and use words and phrases like those white people, or them and they. I live in
    the moment and address each individual situation in the moment. This is the beauty of
    healing your heart. It frees you from your past and keeps you in the present moment.
    Life has taught me that you have two choices in response to anything that happens to
    you.
    The first is to become bitter or the second choice is to become better. I have chosen the
    latter and it has definitely made me a more joyful man. I live by the adage that “if it does
    not kill you, it can only make you stronger.” I am grateful for all the challenges I have
    overcome because I can clearly see how they made me a better man in the process.
    My intention is for you to have a new perception about black men after you finish
    reading this article. The truth is we are no different than any other group of men. We are loving,
    caring, compassionate, sensitive, intelligent, forgiving and courageous. We love our
    country and our families. We deal with all of the same emotions and challenges as any
    one else. We do not all blame society for our challenges and we are constantly making
    positive contributions to America. We are definitely an asset to this country not a
    liability.
    I am reminded of a lesson I learned from Wayne Dyer in which he taught me that I
    should never focus my attention on that which I am against. Instead, I must focus my
    attention on that which I am for and I will experience that as a result. So instead of being
    against racism I am for unity. Instead of taking a position against hatred I take a stand for
    love.
    As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said. “We’re afraid of each other because we do not know
    one another, we do not know one another because most of us are separated from each
    other.” My intention is to remove the perceived separation and create oneness. This is
    the driving force in my life. I want to be the change I want to see in the world and I invite
    you to join me in creating a world of love, peace and unity.
    In the immortal words of John Lennon, “You may say that I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the
    only one. I hope someday you’ll join us, and the world will be as one.’
    Won’t you join me?

  9. wellokaythen says:

    What’s difficult for me when talking about race and racism is that I don’t pay much respect to the categories in which people have become so deeply invested. Racial or ethnic pride is based on these fluid, arbitrary, unstable categories that are always much newer than people imagine and which are going to mean something totally different in a generation or two.

    I also can’t bring myself to ignore sloppy, lazy, illogical thinking. That’s one of the major reasons I despise racism in the first place. Racism takes a bad theory, mixes it with self-serving stereotypes, mythology, and feel-good stories, throws in a bit of logical fallacy, add a pinch of intellectual laziness, and voila, you get a whole –ism you can use for any occasion. I would like my society to fight racism in part by undermining these categories, by showing how patently absurd they really are.

    If I may paraphrase two very different historical sources: it’s hard to free someone from the chains he reveres, and you cannot break your chains by polishing them.

    By the same token, I can’t ignore it when people try to fight racism by using other forms of sloppy thinking. For example, trying to fight negative stereotypes with positive stereotypes, or considering one person’s narrative truer than another based on that person’s race. For example, taking the most common racial categories of the 1970’s and trying to craft policy around them, as if these categories really are measurable in any way. For example, finding racism everywhere, so that even when there is no evidence of racism, that just shows how devious racism is.

    So, I have very little intellectual respect for out-and-out racists, and little intellectual respect for some of the approaches used to fight racism. I would have more respect for anti-racism campaigns if there really were some objective way to test for the existence of racism. If someone were accused of being racist, what would be the test to prove or disprove that allegation? If there is no falsifiability, then I have little respect for the accusation.

    • A similar sort of discussion could be had about all types of social identities, and the ways in which discrimination happens based on these identities, and then the attempts to ‘fix’ that discrimination. For example, homosexuality is a social identity. Some people are born sexually and romantically attracted to people of the same biological sex…but the identity itself is socially constructed. Similarly, ‘African-American’ or ‘Latino’ or ‘white’ are socially constructed. Some people are born with darker (or lighter) skin…or have recent ancestors from one part of the world or another…but the identity itself is socially constructed. So in that sense, I get what you’re saying and I agree with you.

      On the other hand, we have to look at the history of how these socially constructed identities came to be, and what effects these identities have had on people. Being labelled ‘black’ or ‘gay’ or ‘trans’ or ‘disabled,’ etc, was not something a person chose. Society created these identities as something other than the norm…which is why you’ll often hear about people studying “otherness,” as a bit of a catch-all for social minorities. There is great stigma associated with belonging to these categories of otherness…and that stigma often is expressed as outright discrimination and more subtle social pressure. Even though these identities are socially constructed (not biological), they still have very real consequences. So, people who have been labelled ‘other’ try to fight against the stigmatization of their label. And yes, a small subset fight against the idea of the label in the first place…but not most people.

      So then, why aren’t more people fighting to remove the idea of ‘race’ or ‘gender’ or ‘sexual orientation’ altogether? Well part of it is that you get a lot of people who argue that all of that actually is inherently biological. There are a lot of people who will argue for equality, but still think that all of these social identities and differentiations are rooted in biology. i.e. Saying that yes ‘black’ and ‘white people should be equal, but that doesn’t mean that ‘black’ and ‘white aren’t real biological categories.

      The other problem is that all societies have social identities. It’s part of what humans do. And often socially constructed identities are just as arbitrary and illogical as ours are. So in order to remain a human society, we will have social identities, and with as much history as we have with it, race is going to remain one of them for a good long while. So the only realistic goal is to fight for equality, because getting rid of it altogether would be about as impossible as removing our currency or our national identity.

      With regards to people who identify with a minority group expressing pride for belonging to that group…well usually I’ve found that what they’re really expressing pride about is how far that group has come in terms of equality, or that the group exists at all. I’ve had plenty of conversations with people where they ask why LGBT Pride is called that. Why are you proud of something you were born with? It’s like being proud for having brown hair, or something. And the difference, is that the pride comes from overcoming challenges and from managing to gain recognition as something more than just a stigmatized “other.”

      Hope that helps explain.

      • Ah also, with regards to the whole having pride thing…it’s also about rejecting the notion that you should be ashamed of belonging to a certain social identity. And what’s the opposite of shame? Pride. :)

  10. One reason it’s so difficult to talk about race is that we’re supposed to be a race-blind society, but in many ways we fail. In other ways, we don’t even try, or acknowledge it.

    Another reason is that race – meaning nonwhiteness – is a stand-in for so much else. Especially, it’s meant to stand in for class, an even greater taboo in many ways.

    Still another is that nonwhiteness affects our perceptions of gender and what it is to be a man vs. a woman. The roles society dictates are different for each man/woman of each racial group.

    It’s an unholy mess, and we mostly deal with it by being reductive or hopelessly all-inclusive. Neither teaches anything or brings us closer together.

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  4. [...] power and privilege for one “us” over the “not us.” Thus, it’s no surprise that The Good Men Project’s call for a new conversation about race, and its intersection with what it means to be “good men,” begins with four personal, deeply [...]

  5. [...] (4) Race. The best discussions on the Internet are here. [...]

  6. [...] sparked an in-depth conversation about race that was difficult, provocative and ongoing. Our series On Race  grew from the four original posts to fifteen. Some brought out the best in people, others the [...]

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