Male Rape Survivors and Victim-Blaming

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About James A. Landrith

James Landrith is a healing rape survivor, public speaker, Vice President of Men Recovering from Military Sexual Trauma (MR. MST), internationally syndicated blogger, civil liberties activist and the notorious editor and publisher of The Multiracial Activist (ISSN: 1552-3446) and The Abolitionist Examiner (ISSN: 1552-2881). Landrith can be reached by email at: [email protected] or at his personal website/blog.

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  1. John Anderson says:

    When it comes to believing victims of rape, they should always be believed when receiving victim’s services. They can’t victimize anyone else directly although you might make an argument about the waste of resources, it would be far worse to deny an actual victim of rape victim’s services than it would be to provide counseling for someone who (in theory) doesn’t need it.

    During the initial phase of a criminal complaint, victims should also be believed. If police don’t initially believe the victim by default, how can they honestly investigate the allegation? If they find inconsistencies or outright fabrications, they could forward that to the DA . The DA could determine if it’s not prosecutable or if there is cause to file a charge of filing a false police report.

    When it comes to the actual prosecution, I can see doubting rape victims. It’s hard to give rape victims the benefit of the doubt, while still providing the accused the presumption of innocence.

  2. “While the stats most often quoted show extremely low numbers of female predation, the reality differs”

    No, it doesn’t. Women can rape men but it is extremely rare. Only 4% of registered sex offenders are female. 96% are male. Ask the justice department. Under-reporting can’t account for such a huge gap. You are biased because of your own experience. You just don’t want to admit the truth.

    “Were it not for the hard work of SNAP and other organizations who have kept pushing against predators of the cloth, this type of victim-blaming would stilll be occurring regularly to male survivors.”

    Uh, both male and female victims are often accused of lying, so why are you saying it only applies to “male survivors”?

    • Oh really? in a one year period 40% of rapists were female as per the CDC statistics. The majority of rape men face is perpetrated by female perpetrators. You can find this info if you look in the CDC NISVS 2010 full report, however they call “forced to penetrate” as other sexual violence and not rape (a stupid bias).

      Just because the justice department (well known to be biased against men) doesn’t get many female sex offenders doesn’t mean they exist, a lot do not report their abuse. In a one year period equal numbers of men n women were raped, 40% of those rapists were female, and you want to say it’s rare?

      Read the statistics and you might realize the truth is very different to what you say, there is a huge difference between reported abuse and those charged for the crime. Society still doesn’t understand on the whole that women can rape men, pretty much everyone I talk to thinks women can’t rape men.

    • X,

      With regard to your inaccurate use of the word “rare” (which has a defined meaning with regard to statistical analysis), Archy has done a good job of answering those comments.

      With the regard to your claim that I stated only male rape survivors are accused of lying – you are flat-out LYING. No where in my article did I make any such claim. This article is ABOUT MALE SURVIVORS, not FEMALE SURVIVORS. I was talking about what MALE SURVIVORS experience, not what FEMALE SURVIVORS experience or don’t experience. I clearly and explicitly stated this in my opening paragraphs:

      “Please bear in mind that most of these have a parallel form that is directed at female rape survivors. I am not saying that only men deal with these forms of victim-blaming. Not at all. On the contrary, and unlike many who co-opt our experiences to make the false claim that only women suffer victim-blaming, I am saying such vile practices are ALSO directed at men, not SOLELY at men.”

      How in the world does stating that something ALSO happens to men suddenly equal saying it ONLY happens to men????? I can’t wrap my head around that bit of nonsense, no matter how hard I try.

  3. penny white says:

    I thought this was an important and well-written article. What saddens me is the number of commenters who disregarded the substance of the article and went off on their own personal rants about false memory and false accusations. If you have these concerns, write your own damn article. This article was about the very important issue of the shaming and invisibility of male rape survivors. I think the author’s points were proven in the comments section: people are so uncomfortable with the reality of male rape survivors that they attempted to erase the subject of the article in their comments. So sad.

  4. Scott Cunningham says:

    This list is great but I feel I need to correct something. Since I developed a bit of a compulsive habit of revealing I was a male rape survivor online (I basically destroyed my whole semester looking for new places to write it and failed everything) I find victim-blaming ass hats DO demand to know what I was wearing. So it can happen.

  5. My brother is being called a liar because no one saw his rape happen.

  6. well i personally believe you but i have something for you the writter
    it is that the writter should have absolutely no sense of guilt on him
    and should consider himself pure
    since in my religion the one who does have to pay the price not the one who has been pursuaded
    its islam

  7. An excellent and intellectual commentary on a crime that even now remains taboo because of social edicts that men are not and cannot be victimized. Those who have been victimized understand all to well the numbing terror of victimization, and it is unlikely that our criminal justice system will encourage male victims to come forward with the same urgency it gives to female victims. Thank you for the piece.

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