I’m sure you’ve read a lot of dating and sex advice in Cosmopolitan and watched cute dating coaches’ videos on YouTube in you PJs late at night. You might have also checked out awesome advice on what exact text to send to “rope him in” and how to respond to “Hey, U up?” late night messages.
And yet after kissing frogs, your love life sounds like crickets. And you found this article in my corner of the internet. Welcome. I’m here to help you, if you want exact navigation steps on this treacherous journey.
I will not disappoint you because I’m a straight shooter. Let’s go!
1. Stop going on dates
Look, this whole idea of dating has been over-romanticized to the point of no-return. Stop going on coffee dates, dinner dates, drink dates, lunch dates. Just remove any and all consumption of food and beverages with strangers. Just don’t do that shit, okay. You’ve probably done enough of those and that has lead to lonely nights and reading my words. So just stop
2. Do non-date dates™
Ah! What is that, Neha? I’m so glad you asked. These are active dates you go on with strangers. Go for a walk in a public place, biking or play a sport. Any physical activity that helps you interact with each other in a safe environment.
3. Focus on one person at a time
If you’re seeing three different people on different days of the week, you’re not serious about courtship. Courtship is different than dating. See the difference? My ears are dying to hear the pennies drop. Meet that one person like he or she is the last person on the face of earth. Cultivate patience.
4. Be unconventional
Do things during the day. Don’t wait for the weekend or evenings. Meet everyday. Remember how you made friends in school? Yeah, exactly! See them long enough to know if you want to be friends with them. Don’t feel pressured to have sex. If you like the person, see them. It doesn’t matter.
5. Don’t expect sparks to fly
Stay grounded. If you meet someone and you don’t feel “chemistry” immediate, don’t fret. It takes time to build anything meaningful — including a relationship. Be confident in the value you bring to the table.
6. Know your value
What value can you bring to the table? Do you know how you can make a difference in someone’s life? How will someone’s life be better by your presence? Once you know your value, you live it. And that’s how you invite love into your life.
7. Get rid of your cat/dog/hedgehog
Seriously. If you have a pet, it’s doing the job of a human. It can’t and you’d be lying to yourself. Sure, they’re great for emotional support, but they can’t replace the connection you find in another human. Just look at the growing number of single people above the age of 35 with a pet. Give your pet away to a family that might be looking for one. You can reconsider adopting them once you’re in a committed relationship with someone.
8. Seek therapy if you need to heal
This is one of the most important work you would do. Why? Because choosing a life partner is going to be the most important decision that will impact your future happiness. You need to heal so that you don’t carry your past baggage into your future. Leave it where it belongs. You have to know yourself truly before you meet that person with whom you will be spending the rest of your life.
Conclusion
To conclude, if you’re ready for a massive change, then start implementing these seven things. I want to share my relentlessness with you. I want to partner up with you because I know how tough it is out there. Dating is getting harder and harder. But once you know what you’re looking for, you will not bother wasting your time with people who don’t want a relationship. This makes room for better matches to come your way. I did not give up on my search and I will not give up on you or let you give up on yourself. Let’s get real. Let’s get talking. Discover Your Soulmate is the most fun exercise you’ll ever do. If you’re ready to find crystal clarity in what you want in a partner, get in touch with me.
For Your Information: My clients receive coaching and guidance from myself as well as my better half. I don’t believe in receiving dating advice from dating or relationship coaches who are single themselves. I feel blessed to be in this relationship and be able serve you at the highest level. I think having a man’s perspective adds more value to my female clients. Todd is amazing at assessing dating profiles. Get in touch if you seek feedback on yours for photos, texts and more.
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