Relationships become more complex as we grow. Whether seeking love or navigating singlehood, reflecting on experiences and internal compass helps chart a fulfilling course. Here are 19 insights from hard-earned lessons of life and love.
1.You may not have met the right person yet, but don’t stop trying to find love.
2.No one knows how much courage you’ve summoned to pursue someone who’s different; you know and that’s what matters.
3.Early relationships seem passionate, but seeking love to fulfill own fantasies always leads to selfishness. Later on, you realize no one deserves your love as you do yourself.
4.Love is risky, with both seeking fortune to win favor; daring to try is impressive enough.
5.Trust is intimacy’s antidote. Lying to your partner is avoiding rejection by projecting less vulnerability.
6.Childhood wants to be saved by a prince; adulthood wants a knight as a partner facing life’s journey and sharing burdens.
7.Having too high expectations of others leads to insecurity about yourself.
8.Love is about two souls connecting; marriage is about two partners collaborating.
9.Love isn’t guaranteed, but strength perseveres. After repeated endings you see inner power matters more than happiness.
10.Marriage can be found; love arrives unsought.
11.Love isn’t an indulgence but choosing growth. Exclude whatever stunts your potential.
12.Gifts show you’re valued, not debts to repay. Accept and affirm the gesture. Comfortable love is never equivalent to an exchange.
13.Repeated relationships don’t provide insight; reviewing endings does.
14.Every time you want to get back with an ex, ask yourself: “Really the one? Or do I want something better?”
15.Following the doctor’s instruction is more useful than “drinking hot water”. Trust a doctor but not someone ambiguous in a messaging app.
16.“Earn and spend on yourself” is true self-worth. No need to prove that you are loved by passing your shopping ideas to others.
17.You’re not worse because of singlehood, but because of doubting yourself.
18.Desire for love? Be your best self not just for today or this year, but forever.
19.Unhappiness is not because of late marriage but because of compromise.
However love or singlehood unfolds, remember you are worthy of happiness. Look within for the deep-rooted fulfillment and direction to steer relationships, or your solo journey, toward your own happiness. The greatest love and partnership you’ll have is with yourself. Starting from now on, embrace all you have yet to discover!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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