Many good women let dumb dating decisions ruin their lives.
A common one is wasting their best years chasing players.
Outsiders can see this is a mistake, but the women themselves are often blinded to their foolishness.
Good honest men should learn why women do this, so they can become as addictive as the men who won’t commit to them.
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1. Players Are Confident
This confidence often stems from their previous successes with women. If Monica, Erica and Rita liked him, why wouldn’t Tina?
It allows them to speak without filters and make their move without fear of loss.
This creates a fun time for women and allows them to feel safe in a player’s presence.
These are two key ingredients to take women home. But they’re often lacking among regular guys.
A normal dude who hasn’t had much success with women might second-guess what he should say. He might be nervous because this particular woman means more to him. These feelings take up mental space, blocking his ability to be witty and free-flowing.
This is why I encourage men to build the confidence and self-esteem to attract women in general. This will stop you freezing up around any woman in particular and allow you to make the best move naturally.
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2. Players Know How To Spike A Woman’s Emotions
Attraction is sparked emotionally, not logically. Players know that better than anyone.
While the nice guy treats women with kindness and shows his ability to be a great boyfriend, the player does not.
Instead, he treats her to an emotional rollercoaster of highs and lows. She’s never sure whether she can have him and that makes the courtship far more exciting.
Even though the good guy would make a great partner, she finds him boring and predictable. He barely sparks her emotions at all.
The player sets her emotions on fire, and young women are prone to chasing this excitement over a stable relationship.
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3. Players Don’t Pedestalize Women
Pedestalizing women is the defining behavior of a ‘nice guy’.
They treat the women they pursue like goddesses despite barely knowing them and getting next to nothing in return.
Maybe mainstream media taught them to do that. Perhaps they’re compensating because they believe they have nothing else to offer.
Either way, it makes women feel that they’re above the men who do this. And women are looking only to date up, not down.
Players understand this. So, they never try to win women over with gifts, favors or cute Instagram comments.
Many make themselves less available to the women they’re pursuing. This creates the space for women to chase them.
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4. Players Have Social Proof
Most women are very careful about who they go on dates with. This is partly because they have such an abundance of options in the digital dating era. But it’s also because they’re less prepared to deal with a creep. They have to worry about their dates being dangerous, as well as socially awkward.
Many women deal with this risk by considering a man’s social proof. Some will only date men recommended by their friends. But others will consider how many other beautiful women are in a stranger’s life.
If you arrive at the club surrounded by female friends, other women will assume you’re a cool guy. It’s the same if you’re surrounded by babes in your social media profiles.
Social proof is one of the most effective ways to get an accurate impression of someone. You can fake a winning personality, but it’s tough to fake this.
That’s another reason why women go home with players! They have that social proof which lets them know a good time is on the way.
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5. Players Don’t Judge
Women love sex, but society judges them for seeking it with too many new partners. That means they need to be careful about who sees their naughty side.
When you come across as a sweet guy looking for a pure and innocent girlfriend, she’ll hide her raging sex drive.
But it still exists.
So, when she bumps into a fun guy who doesn’t seem to judge casual sex at all, she’s more open to going with him.
In many women’s minds, there are no consequences to sleeping with a player. He’s not going to shame her or blab to the whole world about their encounter. Plus, he knows how to make casual sex not seem too orchestrated, so she can feel like ‘it just happened’.
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6. Players Often Have Status
A lot of players attain some form of status to attract women.
On one end of the player spectrum are the ‘popular boys’ in college or university. On the other end are millionaires and celebrities.
Either way, women feel a boost in their own status when they sleep with men like this. Even more if they can get into relationships with them.
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7. Women Try To Tie A Player Down
Many men see sex as a ‘conquest’. A woman’s equivalent is tying the cool, fun and popular guy into a relationship. This is incredibly fulfilling for her. It tells her she’s better than all the babes who slept with him but couldn’t tie him down.
Plus, many women see it as their only choice. Because most non-players treat her like a queen and make themselves look like peasants.
So, those who want a serious relationship try to defy the odds and lure a player into one. A move that ends in heartbreak more often than not.
Some learn from their mistakes as they get older and settle for a man who is less exciting. But others can waste all their best years being pumped and dumped because they refuse to date men who don’t excite them the way a player can.
As a loyal man, your best move is to learn how to excite women then let them tie you into a relationship.
Give her the best of both worlds and she’ll love you forever.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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