Being yourself when most people think like you, where the environment is conducive, is easy. The challenge is to maintain your integrity in a place where most people think and act differently from you. An even greater challenge: to be able to remain with your principles and values unaltered, not to be corrupted, where adversities prevail. Certainly, one must be very aware and sure of who you are and what you think in order not to be part of the group or seem like just another one in the middle of the “herd”.
Those who live all the time with fear and on the defensive, do not build, do not change, do not live, do not walk and still get tired and are manipulated! Of course, it’s always prudent to act cautiously with people and situations we don’t know, especially when we suspect something.
True character comes to the surface eventually…
Many people present an image very far from their true essence, perhaps because they think that the character they wear is much more interesting than they actually are. They may not even accept themselves the way they are.
Many times it is necessary to give ourselves time and wait for the other person to show themselves, undress or give clues about what they intend to do. It is not wise to deduce or judge beforehand, as we may reach erroneous conclusions and be careless. We need to have patience and temperance, because sooner or later people show themselves. No one spends all their time pretending to be something they’re not. It’s hard to disguise yourself, put on the “fantasy” and the “mask” every day, it takes time and energy. If this doesn’t happen at the moment, the best thing to do is wait. It won’t be long, and we’ll soon know who the subject is and what they came for.
It’s amazing, but almost no one escapes. As soon as an opportunity arises, the person immediately undresses, and one of their facets is presented to us, just the way they always were and are. They show us if they are educated, if they are integrated, if they have character, if they have consideration, if they are trustworthy…
I think that difficult times allow us to see who people really are, because what they have always hidden comes to the surface, not even the varnish remains. It is also the opportunity we have to find out who our true friends are, because there are countless companions to have fun with, drink beer, have a barbecue and play cards, always ready, at our disposal.
These people think they are smarter, more intelligent than others and still think that the others are fools and can be manipulated with relative ease, that they will never discover their true facet, that’s why they keep giving us a certificate of fools… They believe that they deceive with attitudes, with false words and smiles, with a bunch of half-truths or with the nonsense they say… Unfortunately, appearing to be someone is not enough, and most people do so. To be a real person, you have to demonstrate and do your part. It is necessary to have firm, solid principles that are not malleable according to the situation or convenience, or the individual has them or not, you can’t invent in an emergency circumstance.
Character is not a muscle that flexes according to the moment or interest, nor is it mutable.
It requires a good education, a solid foundation and many good examples, if we want to pass it on. All this does not depend on financial situation, because there are many poor simple and educated and many rich without education and rude. In the same way, honesty is not linked to assets, nor to money. You can’t be half honest; either the subject is honest and decent, or they are not. It is a fact that these values are becoming increasingly rare, it is not for everyone, I would say for very few.
Great people, not the pretenders, are recognized in small attitudes, in small gestures, in details, in subtleties, in minutiae… They are simple, clear, direct, honest, they don’t mess around, they don’t fool or try to “sell” us something they don’t even have to deliver. Those who pretend all the time are pure deception, but everyone is everyone!
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