This is not my story, but it is a friend’s with whom I can see something really painful is happening. She is 22, newly married-just one month into what is supposed to be the happiest time of her life. Instead, she is drowning in sadness and confusion.
Her husband, aged 24, has been doing things that make her feel so betrayed. He spends time looking up women from his past on Facebook, women from his university days, women he knew before her. When she confronted him, he either couldn’t explain his actions or brushed them off, claiming it was just curiosity. He promised to stop, but he didn’t. The worst part? These women don’t even resemble her. They are blonde, their confidence comes in showing their body, and some even post sexual contents-none of which reflects who she is.
It was further deepened when she learned about a female coworker whom her husband had been overly friendly with but never mentioned to her. To her, all those acts sound like betrayal. The feelings that describe her emotions include those of being broken, angry, and questioning whether he ever loved her as she thought during the engagement. The lies, secrets, and broken promises gnaw at her. She’s questioning everything in their relationship now.
They have not spoken in two days; he has not tried to reach out, and she is lost. What makes it worse is that fact that she has no one to turn to-not her parents, not anyone. She feels like she’s stuck in this hurtful circle and doesn’t know how to get out of it.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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