You may not think you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship or minimize it. You may not consider your partner abusive because they seem caring and loving towards you, until you do not comply.
A narcissist expects special treatment, appreciation, admiration, perfect attunement, and feels disappointed when others are not measuring up or supplying them.
The person who is borderline often is invested heavily in others, to get the love they want, focusing on them and complying with their needs.
In counseling couples with BPD, it is imperative to explore why the person who is borderline blames themselves for the problems, while assisting them to discuss the issues and bring them to the surface, when they are overlooked.
Do you not feel good enough about yourself?
A signal that you do not feel good about yourself is often when you stop focusing on yourself or avoid expressing yourself in order to keep others happy.